Reaping and Sowing

“For whatever a man sows, that he will also reap.” ( Gal 6:7) Someone asked me recently,”Does this apply to marriage?” Of course it does!!! God’s word is applicable to every situation in our lives. There are absolutely no areas off limits.

Marriage and family relationships leave much room for sowing and reaping. These are the grounds for which you spend most of your time being true to who you “really are.” A friend of mines once said to me,” My spouse treats our neighbors better than he treats me.” This can be the case in marriages where there has been a breakdown of communication or trust for one reason or the other. However, our Christian goals should be to align our walks with the law of reaping and sowing. If you don’t like what you’re getting out of your spouse then you should try putting in something different.

What are you sowing into your marriage these days? If you are sowing impatience, sarcasm, and indifference then you will most certainly reap from the seed you have sown. We can not  expect to reap the rewards from that which we are unwilling to sow. The bible tells us in Proverbs 11:18 that seeds sown in righteousness will have a sure reward.

I have an exercise that I would like everyone to try today. Write down all the things you would like to see manifested in your marriage. Once you finish making your list join me over the next 30 days as we practice sowing these very things into our spouse and families.
I can’t wait to hear your testimonies of how God worked on your behalf.  Remember that which is planted will eventually take root.

Cassandra

Don’t let your conscience be your guide!

Are you allowing your conscience to be the guiding force in your marital decisions? If so, you are bound to make plenty of mistakes that might impede your success.

God’s word should be our only devise used in decision-making.  All scripture is given by God to correct and instruct those of us who are in the household of faith. (2tim. 3:16-17) Man’s conscience alone can not guide us because it can be too easily persuaded that good is evil and evil is good. Our conscience will allow us to justify wrong doing based on our experiences, environments, and even due to the people who are in our immediate circle of support. How many times have you made a quick judgement based on  your spouse’s mood or position on a matter?

Well let’s be honest here…… Man wants his own way, however God’s way is always the better way. If my husband is always moved by my feelings or moods enough to make decisions based on them alone then he is merely allowing his conscience and his emotions to guide him. Even from the beginning it is written that Eve was deceived by the serpent thus leading Adam to be drawn into sin along side her.  It is too easy to be drawn into sin based on selfishness, or even being  overly accommodating to the point that you go away from  God’s standards for living. In today’s society we can not be guided by our conscience instead we must gravitate towards the word of God for direction. Your conscience will lie to you because it is grounded in what makes sense in the natural. If we want our marriages to truly be successful then we must rely solely on His word as the final authority in all matters.

There is a way that seems right to a man but in the end it leads to death. (Proverbs 14:12 NLT)

Be Blessed,
Cassandra

Does your marriage need maintenance ?

Why is it that we all understand the concept of getting an oil change or a tune-up in order to keep our cars running properly, however if you mention counseling or a marriage workshop people act as if its foreign and unspeakable?

Marriages need maintenance from time to time just like anything else. (Especially if you plan to stay married for a lifetime. ) Over the course of a marriage a lot of things can change. People change. Opinions change. Desires change. Even your situation can change. Taking care of your marriage is just as important as taking care of your car, your health, or your finances. It is vital that we make our marriage covenant a priority by doing the work that helps the marriage to grow.

Here are a few marriage maintenance activities that you and your spouse can do to give your marriage a winning chance of survival.

1.  Pray for your marriage.
2.  Attend a marriage workshop.
3.  Seek and maintain a couple that can serve as a marriage mentor.
4.  Schedule monthly meetings to discuss your marital issues and come up with plans to resolve concerns.
5.   Seek counseling from your pastor or a trusted counselor.
6.  Participate in your churches marriage ministry activities.
7.  Spend time with  other couples that enjoy marriage.

Marriage maintenance is a necessity for those with great marriages just as much as those with troubled marriages.  Most of us don’t wait until we run out gas to put gas in our vehicles. 🙂 We can apply the same  rule of thumb to our marriages. Don’t wait until a problem arises to seek help. May God‘s blessing be upon you and your family.

Cassandra

Self-righteous Behavior

Are you a bit self- righteous? Self- righteous people can be the most annoying people to be around. They are the ones that think everything they do is right and everything you do is wrong. Even in the midst of their own troubles they find time to insult, humiliate, or judge others around them. These type of people make others very uncomfortable during their interactions and this is therefore often the cause of many broken relationships.

Self-righteousness  people tend to think that their thinking process is superior to everyone else’s. They often use condensing and judgmental comments to prove that their opinions or feelings are more valuable than yours. Self-righteous attitudes can destroy marriages and other relationships faster than other sins because it becomes obvious to others  around you that your thinking leads your decisions.  When the focus of your thinking is “self-righteous” you are only concerned with being right.  You have little ability to see things from other people’s point of view which can be a big turn off to family, friends, and even coworkers.

The bible tells us that the Master will know our character by our fruit.  What fruit is growing on your tree??? Whether it is self-righteousness  or some other sinful behavior it’s time to make a change. God desires for us to grow our relationships by developing in the fruit of the spirits.

If you are exhibiting self-righteous thinking in your marriage or relationships take time to meditate on the scriptures below.

Gal. 5:22-23
Matthew 7:19-21
James 3:18

Love the One You’re With

Marriage has its ups and its downs. However, one thing is for sure…. no matter whether you’re up or down you should always love the one you’re with.

Often times in marriage we lose focus of the “blessings of marriage.”  Marriage should produce the close bonds that we as humans desire to have with one another. It is in our DNA to want to be loved and cared for by an earthly being. God the father loves us so well that it is only natural that we would want to feel that same love from our mates.  The question then becomes ” What do you do when your spouse’s actions do not line up with your expectations?” First of all I can tell you one thing that you don’t do…. and that is you do not give up.

Many of us look at our marriages as “contracts” instead of “covenants.” It is too easy to walk away and give in to difficult times especially when you look at your marriage as a contract that can be terminated at anytime. However, when you look at your marriage as a covenant between you, God, and your spouse then and only then can you filter out the bad and press forward in love.

If your spouse’s actions are not lining up to your expectations begin by asking yourself theses questions.

1. Am I being the best spouse I can be?
2. Am I fulfilling the needs of my spouse?
3. Am I loving my spouse unselfishly or am I holding out on my love until I get what I want or need?
4. Am I communicating my needs effectively to my spouse?
5. Am I still the person that they married? If not, how have I changed?

After you have asked yourself the above questions I urge you to evaluate your expectations for your spouse and make sure that they line up with God’s word and design for marriage.  Change your marriage forever by making a list of ways you can start selflessly showing your spouse  how much you love and appreciate them. May God bless your union and fill you both with an abundance of love for one another.

Cassandra

Increasing your faith!

It is inevitable that you will face some challenges along the way in marriage. Kids disappoint you, careers don’t fulfill all of the financial streams needed to provide for the family, and sometimes sickness attacks your body. Whatever the challenge that threatens the stability of your marriage know that God‘s promises have been thoroughly tested.(Psalm 119:140)

When the storms of life come we must stand firm with our spouse being strong in faith and giving all glory to God. The word of God says, “Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering; (for he is faithful that promised;) Hebrews 10:23

We were never promised a life filled with endless happiness. His word informs us that we will indeed have some trials and tribulations while on this earth. How we deal with our personal trials will impact our children and our families.

When faced with a challenge in your marriage never forget the power of two.

“Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” Matthew 18:19-20 (NIV)

God has created the perfect union in marriage! All it takes is two people on earth to agree about anything and he has said he will do it! Many times we are not activating God’s promises because we go in it alone. When our faith begins to waver about something we have no one to back us up . Married people need to support each in their prayer life just as much as in other areas.

Often times we are overtaken by life’s challenges simply because we fail to exercise our authority. There is so much power in having a partner that is able and willing to pray with you. Praying with your partner helps to increase your faith in God and His promises. The more you do it you will increase your faith and “nothing will be impossible to you.” Matthew 17:20 (NIV)

I am thankful to God for having a husband that is not ashamed to pray with me and for me. Many of God’s promises have come to pass because of his unwavering faith.  My prayer is that you and your partner will come to recognize the “power of two” and use it for life’s everyday challenges. May God be with you always.

Cassandra

Is deception becoming a natural part of marriage?

Lately I’ve heard more and more people admitting to the fact that they lie to their spouse about certain topics…mostly money related like miscellaneous expenses. I can only assume that many of these people have never felt the pain or feelings of betrayal that come along with being lied to or misled by someone you love.

Deception should not be a natural part of marriage. Lying to someone you love for any reason is just wrong. The marital relationship much like the parent child relationship must be built on trust.

“And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. ” (Matthew 19:5-6 )

How can two become one if they are divided by deception? Lying to someone you love will always lead to division. Division for some might mean a relationship that is plagued with resentment and animosity, while others may face the unfortunate consequences of divorce.

It is essential in marriage to have a mutual understanding that is built on respect, trust and committment. Without these three things how can any of us every reach true intimacy in our relationships? Intimacy is not just about sex. Real intimacy is only reached by two people who can have a close relationship without fear of being wronged by the other.

If your marriage is suffering from trust issues work hard to regain the trust that was once there. Those that deal in truth are a delight to the Lord! (Proverbs 12:22)

Obama’s Shocking Declaration

President Obama declared a few weeks ago week that he believes that gays and lesbians should have the right to marry. While his opinion shocked many it also evoked much excitement and gratitude for those who live alternative lifestyles. His declaration of approval left me with mixed emotions.

As a Christian I believe that we all fall short of God’s glory. None of us are perfect that walk this earth.   I can openly admit to making lots of mistakes in my lifetime some of which can be seen as conflicting with my Christian beliefs.  However, the fact remains that as a Christian I believe that our actions, opinions and beliefs should always line up with the word of God and when they don’t we should repent. How can we represent God if we fail to respect or accurately interpret His word and design for mankind?

I am not by any means saying that I am against gays or lesbians any more than I am saying that I am for them. I believe that God would be pleased if we all treated each other with love and compassion instead of with hate or disgust. However, while I am certain that he wants us to show compassion to those that have different views and lifestyles than our on, I can’t imagine that He would want us to compromise our spiritual beliefs for any reason. God has made His views known to all in his word. Marriage was originally designed to be between one man and one woman.( 1 Corinthians 6:9-11; 1 &Timothy 1:9-10 )Marriage is sacred and is a covenant that was created by God.

It is evident in the world around us that not everyone will honor or believe as we believe as Christians. Yet, does that make it alright for Christians to start compromising the sacredness of God’s legal authority of the land? Whose side are we on when we go against the written word? Man’s or God’s……

I want to hear your thoughts. Do you agree or disagree with Obama’s view? Respectfully, I believe that marriage should be recognized only if it is between a man and a woman.

Deeply Saddened,

Cassandra

 

Are You Growing together?

As many of you know I am homeschooling my kids and my niece. The last couple of weeks we have been talking about plants. We discussed what plants need in order to grow healthy and the process of how  plants grow. We planted some sunflower seeds in small containers and sat them in our kitchen windowsill.   The kids have all been amazed at how fast they seem to be growing right before our eyes. My oldest daughter said, ” We are taking good care of our plants mommy.” 🙂

Our little science project really got me to thinking of ways in which I can facilitate opportunities to grow in my marriage and family life.  The Holy Spirit reminded me that we must nurture our marriages  just like flowers.  Much like plants our spouses and kids need to receive some very specific things from us in order to grow and to be healthy. If we fail to feed them with the proper nutrients they are very likely to wither and not to grow into the beautiful beings that God has created them to be.

Many marriages and families are growing apart instead of growing together these days. It is our Christian duty to be the light of the world and help bring life to those things that appear dead.   Here are some signs that your family may be growing apart:

  • You don’t take time  to eat meals together
  • Everyone has their own agendas
  • You make your own plans without consulting your spouse
  • You have plenty of individual goals in life, but none that involve  the family collectively

God desires that our marriages and families are fruitful! Here are some ways that you can continue to help your family in growing together:

  • Hold family meetings to discuss plans, goals, and issues
  • Make time to eat and pray together
  • Consult your spouse in making decisions that impact the marriage or family as a whole
  • Engage in activities that bring the family together to laugh, learn, and love

Decide today if your marriage and family is growing together or growing apart. God desires growth for you and your family. Those that be planted in the house of the Lord shall flourish in the courts of our God. They shall still bring forth fruit in old age; they shall be fat and flourishing; (Psalm 92:13-14)

The path to submission

Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.  Genesis 3:16 (KJV)

Following the fall of man God told Eve that her husband would rule over her and that her desires would be for her husband.  This was as a result for Eve’s part in disobeying God’s command not to eat of the tree of knowledge. Today God still requires that husbands rule over their wives and that wives submit to their husband’s leadership. There are many women that hate the word submission. Some  believe that being submissive means that you open the door to being mistreated and misguided by your husband. Others believe that it takes away from their strength as a woman and as an individual. Submission in God’s eye is much different than what we see with our natural eyes.

The woman that submits to her husband shows an understanding of the following principles with her supernatural eyes:

1. Submitting to our husbands shows the world that we have a desire to have a Godly character.

Do not let your adornment be merely outward-arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel-rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. (1 Peter 3:3-4 (NKJV)

2. Submitting to our husbands shows that we trust God.

For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands,(1 Peter 3:5 (NKJV)

We  do not have to protect ourselves. God will provide for our needs! We will not be harmed through submission.

3.  Submitting to our husbands shows them that we respect them. As a result to our submission they will grow into their God-given leadership roles.

Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, (1 Peter 3:1 (NKJV)

What is the path to submission?

The path begins with a desire to honor God’s perfect order for marriage. Along this path we must learn to develop a servant spirit. Having the servant spirit will help us to develop the desire to please our husbands at all cost.

Begin the path to submission! God promises that we will inherit a blessing through our obedience to His ways!

Yours in Christ,

Cassandra

What’s in your Alabaster box?

The covenant between men and women requires that you be willing to break open your Alabaster box. An Alabaster box was used in biblical times to carry something of importance to an individual.  In Matthew 26:7-9, Mary broke open her Alabaster box to get to her most valued and treasured item– her expensive perfume. She took her perfume and poured it over Jesus’ head not at all concerned that there was nothing left for herself. This was a selfless act on her part. She gave her all out of love and respect for her Lord and Savior.

In reading this passage we find out that the others that were present were in disbelief because they  felt it was  a waste and surely imagined that it would be worth more for her to sale her perfume  in hopes to make a profit. This story touches me every time I read it. I realize how much it costs to give unselfishly to someone you love. In marriage everything may not always be the way you want it or the way you imagined it. However, if you break open your Alabaster box and give freely of all your resources, hurts, and ambitions  then and only then can you love your spouse in new ways.

What is in your Alabaster box? Are you carrying pain from the past? Do you keep something on the side just in case your marriage doesn’t work out? Are you depriving your spouse of true intimacy with you because of fear of being hurt?

Whatever it is that you have saved in your Alabaster box break it open today.  The breaking of your box will free you. God works best with broken vessels.   Allow God to renew your marriage by releasing your most precious possessions. You will be glad you did.

Cassandra

Are you keeping Satan in a defeated condition?

Why does Satan hate marriage so much?

Those that are married were surprised to find out that they had moved up on Satan’s list of people to destroy by any means necessary. Before you were married you were probably further down on the list if you were doing God’s work and trying to live for Christ. However, the day you said “I do” you moved to one of Satan’s Very Important People.

As one of Satan’s Very Important People he studies you daily. He understands you better than anyone else on earth. He knows exactly what it will take to move you off your mark. He has idle time to invent new ways to divide you and your spouse.  Together you and your spouse represent God’s love, beauty, and power.  No one but God could create such a perfect union that is a constant reminder to His great kingdom.

He created marriage to carry on his legacy through generations of families. Satan’s main desire is to prevent you from achieving oneness in your marriage.  What is “Oneness?”

Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (Gen.2:24)

If you are not cleaving to your spouse for every concern, issue, or circumstance that you encounter than you are not successfully achieving oneness in your marriage. Failure to achieve oneness will constantly keep you in a” roller-coaster state “in your marriage. You will constantly be faced with the same issues time and time again because you have not overcome them as of yet.

God is calling all of us to overcome those issues that prevent us from being one with our spouse. In order to defeat Satan we must plan to defeat him daily by “growing in oneness.”  We are more than conquerors through him that loves us. (Romans 8:37) There is no reason why Satan should be able to overtake our marriages with resentment, infidelity, rejection, or any other sinful condition.

Rise up today and decide to keep Satan at a defeated state in your marriage. No weapon formed against you shall prosper! (Isaiah 54:17)

God’s Blessings,

Cassandra

Angry Christians

A metaphorical visualization of the word Anger.

What are you angry about?

Many married couples are  holding anger inside that is specifically reserved for their mate. Some are angry because their spouse didn’t make the right business decision way back in 2001. Others are angry because their mate refuses to respect their position. A select few are angry because they don’t feel that their mate puts them first while forsaking all others. Let me first say this… Anger is a sin. It causes a great percentage of the incarcerations among adults and youth today. Anger destroys healthy marriages every year and the result is inevitable.

DIVORCE!!!

God desires that we carry ourselves in such a manner that would be pleasing to Him.

“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.  Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like.  But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do. Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless.” (James 1:19-26 NIV)

Anger is a dangerous emotion. It causes people to act in ungodly ways. It can cause a division that is hard to repair in marriages and families. God desires that you perfect your walk by being doers of his word. Guard your tongue, body, and thoughts from giving life to tragic circumstances.

It is unlikely that your mate will never again make you angry. However, it is your responsibly to remember God’s word that says, “Be angry but sin not.” (Eph.4:26) When we allow anger to lead us into sin we separate ourselves from God’s protection, thus allowing room for Satan to enter into our presence.

I challenge you to join me in praying for those marriages that you know are drowning in anger. If your marriage is one of them please don’t forget to pray for yourself!  Together we can reverse the curse of anger from gaining a foothold in generations to come.

Blessings, Cassandra

God’s Promises (Part 1)

God’s Promises

Do you ever feel that God’s promises don’t apply to you? Sometimes balancing a marriage and a family can be difficult especially when you are trying to do it God’s way.  There are so many promises of God that we can find in the Bible that can help us in building happy marriages and in raising up children that will glorify God.  Let’s take a look at some of God’s promises today.

  • God promises that he will give us a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11)
  • He assures us that if we wait on him that he will restore our strength. (Isaiah 40:31)
  • We know that the same God who takes care of us will supply all our needs. (Philippians 4:19)
  • God promises that if we listen to him that we will live in peace untroubled by fear of harm. (Proverbs 1:33)
  • The testing of our faith develops perseverance, and perseverance leads to maturity and completion. (James 1:3-4)
  • Our children will not depart from what is right if we train them up in the things of God. (Proverbs 22:6)
  • God promises us that if we ask any thing according to his will that he will hear us and we will have it. (1 John 5:14-15)

How do we activate God’s promises in our life?

We can activate God’s promises through prayer! There is so much that God can do for us when we seek him diligently through our prayer life. Have you ever tossed to and fro throughout the night about some unpleasant life experience?  It is during these times that God expects us to activate his promises through communication with him. The Parable of the Persistent Widow shows us that if we persevere in prayer that God will answer our petitions. (Luke 18:1-8) The widow continued to plead her case for the unjust judge to grant her justice against her adversary.  God promises us time and time again in his word that he will bring justice for those that cry out to him.

The Holy Spirit revealed to me on yesterday that much of what we don’t have is because we don’t ask. Yesterday as I struggled to balance my responsibilities as a wife, mother, daughter, sister, and friend I realized one important thing after my husband prayed for me.

PRAYER CHANGES THINGS!

How can I expect to have all of God’s promises if I don’t ask for them?  How can I expect to be an overcomer if I don’t request God’s assistance?

Activate God’s promises today by making time to spend time dialoguing with God.  The prayers of the righteous availeth much. (James 5:16)

Beyond the Honeymoon Phase

Most of us got married because we found the one person that we were head over heels in love with. We enjoyed their company, we adored their smile, and we felt as if our life was somehow improved just because of their presence. Many couples will enjoy this “Honeymoon Phase” for years to come or for others it can be short lived.

What do we do when the “Honeymoon Phase is over?”

It is important for couples to realize that marriage is a covenant relationship that can stand the test of time. It is normal for couples to go through periods of time in which they may not “feel” that same closeness that they felt the day they walked down the aisle. Feelings are nothing more than passing emotions. Marriage requires that partners put their emotions aside in order to honor the commitment that they made before God.

Joseph and I realized early in our relationship that it took more than love to build a happy marriage. We came to understand that marriage requires both partners to be committed to the vow. Being committed to the vow means that both parties will refrain from allowing negative thoughts to enter into their minds.

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. (2 Cor.10:5 NIV)

Negative thoughts can be anything as small as one believing that their spouse no longer appreciates them to something as big as feeling unloved and no longer desired.  It is necessary for couples to recommit themselves to their spouses periodically. A good time to do this is near or on your anniversary.  During this time we suggest that you both share your vulnerabilities about your relationship and then reaffirm your love and commitment to one another.

We encourage you to make time throughout the year to talk through any conflicting thoughts or perceived notions about the status of your relationship. Remember, emotions may change, but recommitting to your marriage vows will help you stay in right relationship with God and each other.

Do everything as unto the Lord.

Colossians 3:23-25 (KJV)

And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men; [24] Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ. [25] But he that doeth wrong shall receive for the wrong which he hath done: and there is no respect of persons.

There are times in marriage when you have to do things that you don’t feel like doing, or you just don’t want to do. The hardest part of doing something that you don’t want to do is preparing your mind to defeat the negative emotions that come along with the task at hand.

There are several necessary steps that one can take in efforts to defeat the negative emotions that tend to hold you captive and stop your progress.

1. Take control of your emotions by telling yourself that the request or tasks that must be completed should be done to the glory of God. Do it as if it is for Christ himself. Do it with an excellent attitude. This will please God and your spouse.

2. Learn to accept and understand that not all rewards will be received while on earth. Some of the best things are being stored up for you in heaven. Do what is required today even if you don’t see immediate benefits.

3. Realize that everything that you do on earth will be judged by God alone. If your spouse desires for something that falls in line with God’s word and his character then you must do what is right or prepare to receive consequences for all of your wrong doings.

Let our challenge be to be a blessing to our spouse today and every day. Remember your marriage is your first ministry. Give your spouse the joy of having a mate that does everything “heartily as unto the Lord.”

Cassandra

Does pride keep you from doing what is right?

1 What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? 2 You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God. 3 When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.

(James 4:1-3 NIV)

Does pride keep you from doing what you know is right? The bible encourages Christians to yield to our own desires and to submit to the will of God. Pride is one factor that keeps couples from willingly submitting to one another as God has commanded.

When we are prideful in marriage it results in us distancing ourselves from our spouse and causes us to be in contempt of their value. Their opinions or feelings no longer matter because we begin to feel superior in our own thinking and being.

Pride is often what leads many marriages into divorce court. In marriage both partners must submit to God. When we are submitted to God he will always work things out for our good. (Romans 8:28) Total submission to God means letting go of the need to be right or the desire to be in control.

Resist the desire to be among those that seek to please themselves more than anyone else. Unlock God’s power in your life by walking in true humility.

Cassandra

Jenny and Billy just proved marriage is not obsolete!

Marriage in America in 2010

According to recent surveys many report that marriage is becoming obsolete. Well I’m here to say that marriage life is still good! Jenny a fabulous  kindergarten teacher in Georgia just got married this past weekend on March 11th.  🙂 Marriage Life Is Good would like to give the official “congratulations to Jenny and her husband Billy.  We would like to take time out today to give them some special words of encouragement. It doesn’t matter whether you know them or not I’m sure you can think of something to bless their new union.

I will start a list of things that I feel is important to remember as they begin their new life together and you can add to my list through the comment section. Let’s hope Jenny is reading today!

Congrats on your new marriage. We wish you happiness beyond your greatest imagination. Now that your married first and foremost you must promise to read Marriage Life Is Good. 🙂  Here goes the list…..

1.  Keep God first.

2. Let him lead. / Love her good!

3. Pray together

4. Laugh together

5. Always show each other respect

6……

Ok readers….. I’m counting on you to bless the new couple with an overwhelming list of best wishes and ideas to keep the fire burning! Start commenting!!

(Keep it clean )

Don’t go to bed angry!

When you first got married someone of the Christian faith probably quoted the following scripture:

“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.  (Ephesians 4:26-27 NIV)

This scripture happens to be one of the most famous quotes given to those saved and unsaved during marriage celebrations. For those that are not in the household of faith it probably sounds more like this:

“Never go to bed angry.”

This is no doubt one of the best pieces of advice that anyone seeking to stay married forever can receive. Anger is one of the most deadly emotions that anyone can have.  Anger can lead one to make horrible life choices that lead to long-term consequences.  The effects of anger have also been known to cause both physical and psychological illnesses in one’s body.

If you allow anger to fester in your marriage it will block your ability to love as God has commanded.  It is impossible to love your spouse unconditionally and be angry at them at the same time. Love and anger do not mix!!!  Anger seeks revenge and justice, whereas love seeks peace and joy.
Satan would love nothing more than to send you and your spouse to bed angry at one another. When he accomplishes this task he knows that he has gained a place in your marriage that he can use to begin his work.

When anger arises in your marriage make every attempt to make peace before going to bed. Do not allow Satan to begin steps at tearing your marriage apart by pitting you against each other.  We have a favorite line that we like to use when we see Satan trying to get a foothold in our marriage. We start by smiling at the other person and we say, “We’re on the same team.”

Do not let the sun go down when you’re angry! Instead take a time out and devise a plan that allows for a win-win situation. Don’t forget in the midst of your anger, “You both are on the same team too!”

Best wishes,

Cassandra