Knowing your Spouse’s Heart

The Bible tells us that David was a man after God’s own heart.  There are various reasons listed throughout the bible that one could use to validate this truth.  We know that David was a man that sought to be obedient as referenced in Psalms 119:34 . “Give me understanding, and I will keep your law and obey it with all my heart.” We also know that David trusted God because he said, “The LORD is my light and my salvation– whom shall I fear?” Lastly, we also know that David loved God because he said, “I love you, O Lord, my strength. “(Psalm 18:1)

Looking at the life of David one could only assume that God knew his heart because he had spent time with him through the years. The Bible tells us that after God removed King Saul he replaced David as the King of Israel. The Lord tells us in 1 Samuel 16:7 that  he did not look at the outward appearance of David, but that he looked at the heart of David in order to make his decision for Saul’s successor.

This means that he choose David because he knew that David would honor Him and do what was in the best interest of the nation.  Do you trust your spouse to do what’s best for you? Better yet, do you know your spouse’s heart? Knowing the heart of your spouse will help you in understanding his motives and intentions in the midst of troubles.  In other words, if you know your spouse’ heart then you will be able to identify the devil’s attempts to orchestrate accusations between you and your spouse.  We must know and believe that the devil will attempt to set us up every chance he gets.  He thrives on dissension and confusion.  He wants to kill our good thing………

I remember this one specific incident in which the devil tried to convince me that my husband had destroyed something that was dear to me. It was easy for me to believe Satan’s accusations because I was able to line up all the reasons why he might have done such a thing. However, after praying about it the Holy Spirit spoke to my heart and reminded me who my husband was in Christ. He reminded me of his heart.  The Holy Spirit revealed to me that in all the years that I had known Joseph that he had always put my needs and wants before his own. He showed me how he lovingly takes care of me and his children while forsaking all others.  Well….. that was all I needed to put those thoughts to rest.

If we are to have the fruitful marriages that God designed for us, we must learn to understand our spouse’s heart. Their heart patterns will always directs us towards their real motives and intentions toward us. If you find it difficult to understand your spouse’s heart then it is time to revisit who they are.

Take time to learn your spouse by spending quality time talking.  Joseph and I did this recently. We visited Starbucks and sat and talked about our relationship and how it came into being. It was awesome! I walked away with a renewed spirit feeling closer than ever to the wonderful man that I married.

I encourage you to take the time to learn your spouse’s heart too! May God bless your journey!


With Love,



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