Am I Keeping a Record of Wrongs?
The marriage relationship is one in which it can be is easy to start “keeping a record of wrongs”. After all, now that you are married you spend much more time with them then you did when you were dating. We all have our own imperfections that will at some point impact those that we love the most. However, it is important that we free our spouses from the dangers that can arise when we withhold forgiveness. As recorded in the bible Jesus explains to us how the devil uses unforgiveness to outsmart us. Take a look at 2 Corinthians 2:10-11.
“If you forgive anyone, I also forgive him. And what I have forgiven – if there was anything to forgive – I have forgiven in the sight of Christ for your sake, in order that Satan might not outwit us. For we are not unaware of his schemes.”
Witholding forgiveness is the path to heartbreak for both us and our spouses. If we are to reach our high calling that Jesus Christ has set forth for us then we must be free of sin. Failure to forgive those that hurt us is clearly a part of our human “sin nature.” I myself have been guilty of not forgiving the trespasses of others. I remember specific occasions in my life in which I made up my mind not to forgive someone. I would tell myself, “I’ll show them. I’ll hold on to this until hell freezes over!” This is what comes natural to most of us no matter how long we have been saved! That is why we need the word of God to be the one constant in our life that will remind us to do the opposite of what comes natural.
Strengthening our walk with God will help us to better walk in the supernatural. Walking in the supernatural will persuade us to follow the word of God in spite of everything else. No matter how we feel, or what the world has to say we must choose to honor God’s commandments if we are to grow a closer relationship with Him and our spouses. This means that we must freely give forgiveness when it is due.
How do you know if you are keeping a record of wrongs?
- If you are in turmoil every time your spouse disappoints you
- If you take every opportunity to bring up the past during new trials in your relationship
- If you are constantly discussing your spouse’s transgressions with friends or family members
- If you have resentment in your heart towards your spouse
Any of the above would indicate that you are “keeping a record of wrongs” against your spouse. Together we can stop this cycle and love our spouse enough to free them today. Get pass the past and live in the future!
Stay tuned for Forgiveness in Marriage Part 3. Remember…………Marriage is good.
Wishing you blessings,