Recently I had a friend say, “It is easy for you to give me advice your husband is not like my husband.” I must admit I was taking aback by this comment. However, it’s not the first time I’ve heard that same sentiment just posed a different way.
Let me tell you that things were not always easy for Joseph. He had to deal with a whole heap of mess when we first got married. I was deeply hurt by a previous relationship that left me angry, defensive, and untrusting.
I came into the marriage with quite a bit of baggage. However, Joseph unpacked my bag piece by piece and day by day. Thinking back to the beginning I can now see how he was so intentional in his love and care for me.
Joseph understood that as my husband that he had to “nurse me back to health.” He realized that if he was to ever have the marriage that he dreamed that it would take much prayer and planning on his part. I have to imagine that I was much like a project on his to do list.:-)
Dealing with a difficult spouse is never easy. However, if you are committed to living together until death do you part— Why not be happy? We are called to minister to our spouses through unconditional love.
This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins. (1 John 4:10)
God loves us unconditionally!!!! He loves us just the way we are. We are to love our spouses in whatever state they are… Loving them just the way they are doesn’t mean that we don’t desire change, but we must honor God’s command to “Love.” We have to work dilgently on healing our spouses with the help of our Almighty God!!
Over the next couples of days, we will discuss:
- How do you deal with a spouse that is resistant to change?
- How do you heal your spouse from past hurts?
Until tomorrow…. Remember Jehovah Rapha still heals.
- What are your actions communicating to your spouse? (marriageisgood.net)
- Marriage Is Good! (marriageisgood.net)