Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee. Genesis 3:16 (KJV)
Following the fall of man God told Eve that her husband would rule over her and that her desires would be for her husband. This was as a result for Eve’s part in disobeying God’s command not to eat of the tree of knowledge. Today God still requires that husbands rule over their wives and that wives submit to their husband’s leadership. There are many women that hate the word submission. Some believe that being submissive means that you open the door to being mistreated and misguided by your husband. Others believe that it takes away from their strength as a woman and as an individual. Submission in God’s eye is much different than what we see with our natural eyes.
The woman that submits to her husband shows an understanding of the following principles with her supernatural eyes:
1. Submitting to our husbands shows the world that we have a desire to have a Godly character.
Do not let your adornment be merely outward-arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel-rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. (1 Peter 3:3-4 (NKJV)
2. Submitting to our husbands shows that we trust God.
For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands,(1 Peter 3:5 (NKJV)
We do not have to protect ourselves. God will provide for our needs! We will not be harmed through submission.
3. Submitting to our husbands shows them that we respect them. As a result to our submission they will grow into their God-given leadership roles.
Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, (1 Peter 3:1 (NKJV)
What is the path to submission?
The path begins with a desire to honor God’s perfect order for marriage. Along this path we must learn to develop a servant spirit. Having the servant spirit will help us to develop the desire to please our husbands at all cost.
Begin the path to submission! God promises that we will inherit a blessing through our obedience to His ways!
Yours in Christ,
The covenant between men and women requires that you be willing to break open your Alabaster box. An Alabaster box was used in biblical times to carry something of importance to an individual. In Matthew 26:7-9, Mary broke open her Alabaster box to get to her most valued and treasured item– her expensive perfume. She took her perfume and poured it over Jesus’ head not at all concerned that there was nothing left for herself. This was a selfless act on her part. She gave her all out of love and respect for her Lord and Savior.
In reading this passage we find out that the others that were present were in disbelief because they felt it was a waste and surely imagined that it would be worth more for her to sale her perfume in hopes to make a profit. This story touches me every time I read it. I realize how much it costs to give unselfishly to someone you love. In marriage everything may not always be the way you want it or the way you imagined it. However, if you break open your Alabaster box and give freely of all your resources, hurts, and ambitions then and only then can you love your spouse in new ways.
What is in your Alabaster box? Are you carrying pain from the past? Do you keep something on the side just in case your marriage doesn’t work out? Are you depriving your spouse of true intimacy with you because of fear of being hurt?
Whatever it is that you have saved in your Alabaster box break it open today. The breaking of your box will free you. God works best with broken vessels. Allow God to renew your marriage by releasing your most precious possessions. You will be glad you did.
Why does Satan hate marriage so much?
Those that are married were surprised to find out that they had moved up on Satan’s list of people to destroy by any means necessary. Before you were married you were probably further down on the list if you were doing God’s work and trying to live for Christ. However, the day you said “I do” you moved to one of Satan’s Very Important People.
As one of Satan’s Very Important People he studies you daily. He understands you better than anyone else on earth. He knows exactly what it will take to move you off your mark. He has idle time to invent new ways to divide you and your spouse. Together you and your spouse represent God’s love, beauty, and power. No one but God could create such a perfect union that is a constant reminder to His great kingdom.
He created marriage to carry on his legacy through generations of families. Satan’s main desire is to prevent you from achieving oneness in your marriage. What is “Oneness?”
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (Gen.2:24)
If you are not cleaving to your spouse for every concern, issue, or circumstance that you encounter than you are not successfully achieving oneness in your marriage. Failure to achieve oneness will constantly keep you in a” roller-coaster state “in your marriage. You will constantly be faced with the same issues time and time again because you have not overcome them as of yet.
God is calling all of us to overcome those issues that prevent us from being one with our spouse. In order to defeat Satan we must plan to defeat him daily by “growing in oneness.” We are more than conquerors through him that loves us. (Romans 8:37) There is no reason why Satan should be able to overtake our marriages with resentment, infidelity, rejection, or any other sinful condition.
Rise up today and decide to keep Satan at a defeated state in your marriage. No weapon formed against you shall prosper! (Isaiah 54:17)
What are you angry about?
Many married couples are holding anger inside that is specifically reserved for their mate. Some are angry because their spouse didn’t make the right business decision way back in 2001. Others are angry because their mate refuses to respect their position. A select few are angry because they don’t feel that their mate puts them first while forsaking all others. Let me first say this… Anger is a sin. It causes a great percentage of the incarcerations among adults and youth today. Anger destroys healthy marriages every year and the result is inevitable.
God desires that we carry ourselves in such a manner that would be pleasing to Him.“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do. Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless.” (James 1:19-26 NIV)
Anger is a dangerous emotion. It causes people to act in ungodly ways. It can cause a division that is hard to repair in marriages and families. God desires that you perfect your walk by being doers of his word. Guard your tongue, body, and thoughts from giving life to tragic circumstances.
It is unlikely that your mate will never again make you angry. However, it is your responsibly to remember God’s word that says, “Be angry but sin not.” (Eph.4:26) When we allow anger to lead us into sin we separate ourselves from God’s protection, thus allowing room for Satan to enter into our presence.
I challenge you to join me in praying for those marriages that you know are drowning in anger. If your marriage is one of them please don’t forget to pray for yourself! Together we can reverse the curse of anger from gaining a foothold in generations to come.