Archive | June 2012

Increasing your faith!

It is inevitable that you will face some challenges along the way in marriage. Kids disappoint you, careers don’t fulfill all of the financial streams needed to provide for the family, and sometimes sickness attacks your body. Whatever the challenge that threatens the stability of your marriage know that God‘s promises have been thoroughly tested.(Psalm 119:140)

When the storms of life come we must stand firm with our spouse being strong in faith and giving all glory to God. The word of God says, “Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering; (for he is faithful that promised;) Hebrews 10:23

We were never promised a life filled with endless happiness. His word informs us that we will indeed have some trials and tribulations while on this earth. How we deal with our personal trials will impact our children and our families.

When faced with a challenge in your marriage never forget the power of two.

“Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” Matthew 18:19-20 (NIV)

God has created the perfect union in marriage! All it takes is two people on earth to agree about anything and he has said he will do it! Many times we are not activating God’s promises because we go in it alone. When our faith begins to waver about something we have no one to back us up . Married people need to support each in their prayer life just as much as in other areas.

Often times we are overtaken by life’s challenges simply because we fail to exercise our authority. There is so much power in having a partner that is able and willing to pray with you. Praying with your partner helps to increase your faith in God and His promises. The more you do it you will increase your faith and “nothing will be impossible to you.” Matthew 17:20 (NIV)

I am thankful to God for having a husband that is not ashamed to pray with me and for me. Many of God’s promises have come to pass because of his unwavering faith.  My prayer is that you and your partner will come to recognize the “power of two” and use it for life’s everyday challenges. May God be with you always.


Is deception becoming a natural part of marriage?

Lately I’ve heard more and more people admitting to the fact that they lie to their spouse about certain topics…mostly money related like miscellaneous expenses. I can only assume that many of these people have never felt the pain or feelings of betrayal that come along with being lied to or misled by someone you love.

Deception should not be a natural part of marriage. Lying to someone you love for any reason is just wrong. The marital relationship much like the parent child relationship must be built on trust.

“And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. ” (Matthew 19:5-6 )

How can two become one if they are divided by deception? Lying to someone you love will always lead to division. Division for some might mean a relationship that is plagued with resentment and animosity, while others may face the unfortunate consequences of divorce.

It is essential in marriage to have a mutual understanding that is built on respect, trust and committment. Without these three things how can any of us every reach true intimacy in our relationships? Intimacy is not just about sex. Real intimacy is only reached by two people who can have a close relationship without fear of being wronged by the other.

If your marriage is suffering from trust issues work hard to regain the trust that was once there. Those that deal in truth are a delight to the Lord! (Proverbs 12:22)