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Husbands Love Your Wives

1 Peter 3:7 states: In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.

The Bible says in Ephesians 5:25-26: Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word.

I’m not trying to be explicit but I need you to think for a minute about the human anatomy. Who was built to receive and who was built to give? God designed us this way for a reason because he makes no errors. God knows submitting ourselves to another fleshly person is difficult and that’s why he asks of us to submit ourselves to him first so we can in turn learn to be totally submissive to our spouses.

God is asking men to love your wife so much that you will give yourself up. We as men were design to give and called to be spiritual head of the house according to the Lord. We should not allow our wives to be praying more than us which we see often. She should not be giving of herself freely more than us which is often the case.

God’s word says a husband’s prayers can be hindered based upon how we’re treating our wife. We are now one flesh therefore we must treat our wives as such. The word says our bodies are temples for Christ so when we treat our wives inappropriately we’re hurting ourselves first and foremost. We can’t come to Christ expecting our prayers to be answered until we first ask for forgiveness with the issue we’re having with our wife.

We all fall victim to not doing the things we use to do for our spouses before marriage. Remember the flowers, cards and presents you would give? Why not do something nice for her today? My wife has given me 3 children that means she has been pregnant for 27 months of her life. Shouldn’t I honor her for what her body has put her through? Husbands the courtship must continue in the marriage for it to be successful.

The weaker vessel should not have the heaviest load in a marriage because they are not strong enough to handle it! The word calls for the husband to be the spiritual leader of the house and we can fight the attacks on our marriage by trusting God and applying his word. A good wife will be your partner and pray with you and for the family.

We must pray to God and ask him to assist us in becoming better husbands. We have to become more observant of our wives and notice their weakest areas and assist them at all costs.

In sports it’s the coach who is first to be judged based on the success of the team. If the team is winning he is rewarded and keeps his job. A husband will be judged on the order of his house by God because he’s called to lead his family. Although Eve ate of the fruit first sin did not enter the world until Adam ate of the fruit. Men become a rock for your family.

Be Blessed,

Joseph

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Who’s Right, Who’s Wrong?

You’ve heard the phrase “There are 2 sides to every story.” Well, I’m here to tell you there are 3 sides to every story. Her side, his side and the truth! We see situations through our own eyes which is bias, but God sees things truthfully! 1 Corinthians 13:5-6 says, “Love does not behave rudely, does not seek it’s own; is not provoked, thinks no evil. Does not rejoice in iniquity but rejoices in the truth!  Jesus said, “I am the way, the truth, and the life.” (John 14:6). The opposite of a truth is a lie. Therefore we’re lying to ourselves when we refuse to act Christ like and walk in love during a disagreement no matter who started it or whose feelings are hurt.

The Bible says when we are married we now become one flesh. Therefore when we fight as a couple we are hurting ourselves, because her flesh is your flesh and vice versa. Stop beating up yourself and heal yourself! If your leg is injured is it upset with your arm? No! Therefore stop being upset with your spouse and die to self and do what Jesus would want you to do. If you say you are a Christian you should be trying to be “Christ like” in all your ways. Cassandra and I have had our share of disagreements where I felt I was wronged but I was the first to initiate conversation for us to move forward and make peace. This is one of the first steps to dying to self and walking in love. So today I urge you to do what is right in God’s eye instead of what you feel during a disagreement.

Be Christ like today and everyday!

Joseph

Carnal Christians

Hello everyone! I’m Joseph (most people call me Joe) and I’m Cassandra’s husband. I will be a guest author on Marriage is Good from time to time. What Cassandra said is true, marriage is good and our marriage is forever! We agree that it’s still a work in progress but we’re committed to improving ourselves individually under God to make our marriage sweeter! I truly love my wife and she is driven, independent, committed and multi-talented! She knows her purpose and what God has called her to do. I support that, but for a marriage to be good both parties have to be happy. Well, I’m here to confirm we are both happy with each other! LOL!

Statistics show that 50% of first marriages end in divorce. Statistics also show that 50% of Christian marriages will end in divorce also! Why is this so? Well, I believe one of the major reasons is carnal Christians. Let’s look at a definition for carnal- not spiritual; merely human; temporal; worldly. I highlighted worldly because Christian couples tend to think and act worldly when troubles arise in their marriages. Saints use excuses such as we grew apart, we realized we had too many differences, we can’t live together anymore.  The world way says leave when issues arise, but God says “condemn them through me and I will equip you with the weaponry needed.” 2 Corinthians 10:4 states, “For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds.” This scripture is saying that our weapons are not “fleshly” but spiritual. We have a spiritual weapon that can be mightily used through God to defeat and destroy any attack on our marriage. When we use worldly weapons to fix a marital problem you are in danger of eventually being spiritually defeated.

Let me back up a moment. Someone is probably saying to me “Can a Christian be carnal?” and the answer is YES! 1 Corinthians 3:1-3, the apostle Paul is addressing the Christians and states in verse 3: “For where there are envy, strife and divisions among you, are you not carnal and behaving like mere men?” When Christians are on the brink of divorcing is there not division and strife in the household? Do we not think selfishly when there are children involved in a marriage, yet we feel we would be better off alone? We all are with sin and every time we sin we are acting carnally.  We are to instead perfect our walk with God and ask him to lead us through temptation and deliver us from our sins. We have to ask God to change our way of thinking and give us the spiritual weapons needed to destroy and defeat any attack on our marriage.

Saints what we’re doing wrong is we’re not applying God’s word to every area in our marriage. I know many Christian couples who are tithers, faithful Sunday worshippers and they even went through marriage counseling before they got married. Yet their marriages still ended in divorce! Why? They were not doers of the word in their marriages. They did not die to self so they reacted carnally (worldly)! Saints this is a covenant we form with God and we took an oath to be there in good or bad times, sickness or health until death do us apart! We choose to ignore this when we’re disagreeing with each other. We forget that our spouse is not the enemy but a vessel being used by the devil to separate us because he simply hates marriage because God created it. Christian couples often forget that God is the 3rd party in their marriages. We’re so quick to point out our spouses issues but won’t evaluate ourselves and what we need to fix to have a better marriage. Why do we forget God’s word when our marriage is under attack? God says all things are possible to whom that believe. This means our marriages can stay in heavenly bliss if we trust in God. You are a Christian now so your carnal way of thinking has been replaced with a spiritual way of thinking apply it!

If you’re going through a difficult time in your marriage and you want to get it back on track. Please take the first step and die to self. Don’t let pride and egos stand in the way of what God has planned for your marriage. Even if you’re not the one who initiated the wrong someone has to die to self first in order for God to step in and work it out. Jesus died for us! He gave of himself first so that we may live. You gave of yourself when you became a Christian to live for God. Remember, you now have a new way of thinking and belief system. This does not apply in certain areas of your life but in ALL areas so believe and trust in God’s word and continue to pray for your spouse and your marriage. Build your faith through prayer and studying the word. Apply his word to every area of your life. Stop being a carnal Christian and claim the victory in your marriage! I’ll be praying for you and remember God’s word when trouble attacks. Marriage is good even in bad times.

Victory!

Joseph