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Reaping and Sowing

“For whatever a man sows, that he will also reap.” ( Gal 6:7) Someone asked me recently,”Does this apply to marriage?” Of course it does!!! God’s word is applicable to every situation in our lives. There are absolutely no areas off limits.

Marriage and family relationships leave much room for sowing and reaping. These are the grounds for which you spend most of your time being true to who you “really are.” A friend of mines once said to me,” My spouse treats our neighbors better than he treats me.” This can be the case in marriages where there has been a breakdown of communication or trust for one reason or the other. However, our Christian goals should be to align our walks with the law of reaping and sowing. If you don’t like what you’re getting out of your spouse then you should try putting in something different.

What are you sowing into your marriage these days? If you are sowing impatience, sarcasm, and indifference then you will most certainly reap from the seed you have sown. We can not  expect to reap the rewards from that which we are unwilling to sow. The bible tells us in Proverbs 11:18 that seeds sown in righteousness will have a sure reward.

I have an exercise that I would like everyone to try today. Write down all the things you would like to see manifested in your marriage. Once you finish making your list join me over the next 30 days as we practice sowing these very things into our spouse and families.
I can’t wait to hear your testimonies of how God worked on your behalf.  Remember that which is planted will eventually take root.

Cassandra

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Love the One You’re With

Marriage has its ups and its downs. However, one thing is for sure…. no matter whether you’re up or down you should always love the one you’re with.

Often times in marriage we lose focus of the “blessings of marriage.”  Marriage should produce the close bonds that we as humans desire to have with one another. It is in our DNA to want to be loved and cared for by an earthly being. God the father loves us so well that it is only natural that we would want to feel that same love from our mates.  The question then becomes ” What do you do when your spouse’s actions do not line up with your expectations?” First of all I can tell you one thing that you don’t do…. and that is you do not give up.

Many of us look at our marriages as “contracts” instead of “covenants.” It is too easy to walk away and give in to difficult times especially when you look at your marriage as a contract that can be terminated at anytime. However, when you look at your marriage as a covenant between you, God, and your spouse then and only then can you filter out the bad and press forward in love.

If your spouse’s actions are not lining up to your expectations begin by asking yourself theses questions.

1. Am I being the best spouse I can be?
2. Am I fulfilling the needs of my spouse?
3. Am I loving my spouse unselfishly or am I holding out on my love until I get what I want or need?
4. Am I communicating my needs effectively to my spouse?
5. Am I still the person that they married? If not, how have I changed?

After you have asked yourself the above questions I urge you to evaluate your expectations for your spouse and make sure that they line up with God’s word and design for marriage.  Change your marriage forever by making a list of ways you can start selflessly showing your spouse  how much you love and appreciate them. May God bless your union and fill you both with an abundance of love for one another.

Cassandra

Is deception becoming a natural part of marriage?

Lately I’ve heard more and more people admitting to the fact that they lie to their spouse about certain topics…mostly money related like miscellaneous expenses. I can only assume that many of these people have never felt the pain or feelings of betrayal that come along with being lied to or misled by someone you love.

Deception should not be a natural part of marriage. Lying to someone you love for any reason is just wrong. The marital relationship much like the parent child relationship must be built on trust.

“And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. ” (Matthew 19:5-6 )

How can two become one if they are divided by deception? Lying to someone you love will always lead to division. Division for some might mean a relationship that is plagued with resentment and animosity, while others may face the unfortunate consequences of divorce.

It is essential in marriage to have a mutual understanding that is built on respect, trust and committment. Without these three things how can any of us every reach true intimacy in our relationships? Intimacy is not just about sex. Real intimacy is only reached by two people who can have a close relationship without fear of being wronged by the other.

If your marriage is suffering from trust issues work hard to regain the trust that was once there. Those that deal in truth are a delight to the Lord! (Proverbs 12:22)

Obama’s Shocking Declaration

President Obama declared a few weeks ago week that he believes that gays and lesbians should have the right to marry. While his opinion shocked many it also evoked much excitement and gratitude for those who live alternative lifestyles. His declaration of approval left me with mixed emotions.

As a Christian I believe that we all fall short of God’s glory. None of us are perfect that walk this earth.   I can openly admit to making lots of mistakes in my lifetime some of which can be seen as conflicting with my Christian beliefs.  However, the fact remains that as a Christian I believe that our actions, opinions and beliefs should always line up with the word of God and when they don’t we should repent. How can we represent God if we fail to respect or accurately interpret His word and design for mankind?

I am not by any means saying that I am against gays or lesbians any more than I am saying that I am for them. I believe that God would be pleased if we all treated each other with love and compassion instead of with hate or disgust. However, while I am certain that he wants us to show compassion to those that have different views and lifestyles than our on, I can’t imagine that He would want us to compromise our spiritual beliefs for any reason. God has made His views known to all in his word. Marriage was originally designed to be between one man and one woman.( 1 Corinthians 6:9-11; 1 &Timothy 1:9-10 )Marriage is sacred and is a covenant that was created by God.

It is evident in the world around us that not everyone will honor or believe as we believe as Christians. Yet, does that make it alright for Christians to start compromising the sacredness of God’s legal authority of the land? Whose side are we on when we go against the written word? Man’s or God’s……

I want to hear your thoughts. Do you agree or disagree with Obama’s view? Respectfully, I believe that marriage should be recognized only if it is between a man and a woman.

Deeply Saddened,

Cassandra

 

Jenny and Billy just proved marriage is not obsolete!

Marriage in America in 2010

According to recent surveys many report that marriage is becoming obsolete. Well I’m here to say that marriage life is still good! Jenny a fabulous  kindergarten teacher in Georgia just got married this past weekend on March 11th.  🙂 Marriage Life Is Good would like to give the official “congratulations to Jenny and her husband Billy.  We would like to take time out today to give them some special words of encouragement. It doesn’t matter whether you know them or not I’m sure you can think of something to bless their new union.

I will start a list of things that I feel is important to remember as they begin their new life together and you can add to my list through the comment section. Let’s hope Jenny is reading today!

Congrats on your new marriage. We wish you happiness beyond your greatest imagination. Now that your married first and foremost you must promise to read Marriage Life Is Good. 🙂  Here goes the list…..

1.  Keep God first.

2. Let him lead. / Love her good!

3. Pray together

4. Laugh together

5. Always show each other respect

6……

Ok readers….. I’m counting on you to bless the new couple with an overwhelming list of best wishes and ideas to keep the fire burning! Start commenting!!

(Keep it clean )

Build Your House on the Rock!

Matthew 7:24-29
“Whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock: And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock.

And every one that heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand: And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it.

And it came to pass, when Jesus had ended these sayings, the people were astonished at his doctrine:  For he taught them as one having authority, and not as the scribes.”

Is your house built on solid ground or will it pass away as soon as the wind blows? Our marriages should be built upon the rock of Jesus Christ. He gives us everything that we need to be a success in marriage. Keeping your covenant to your spouse may be challenging from time to time, however God’s word is your weapon in the midst of a storm. He is truly our refuge and strength! (Psalms 46:1)

The foolish man did not build his house on firm foundation. He didn’t seek assistance…. He likely wanted to do things his own way. We resemble the foolish man in marriage when we are resistant to allow the word of God to guide us in our daily living.  We can also look very much like this same foolish man when we refuse to seek counsel when things go wrong in our relationships. The man that does not adhere to the word of God will always stubble and fall because he is not grounded in the things that develop “sustaining power.” Sustaining power comes by way of our prayer and praise. Make every effort to pray daily with your spouse and praise God for sustaining your marriage another day, another month, and another year!

We cannot expect to be successful in our marriages without allowing God to build our house. We cannot be successful if we do not submit to His plans. Instead, we end up “falling a great fall” like the house of the foolish man.

Make the decision today to rebuild your house on the rock! Jesus is our rock!!!!!  His grace is sufficient for us; and his strength is made perfect in weakness. (2 Cor. 12:8) Give up your building rights today and turn them over to him so that you can be like the wise man. When the storms come we need to be fully equipped to stand on God’s word.

We will be able to weather the storm if we are applying biblical truths in our marriages on a daily basis. May God bless and honor your efforts towards keeping your covenant.

Cassandra

Lights, Camera, Action!

If you ever want to know the truth about yourself asks your spouse.  They know the in’s and out’s about you better than anybody other than God himself. They know what bugs you, what makes you smile, and even what gets your creative mind going. They get to see the good and the bad more than anyone else in your circle of friends and family.

Outside the home people get to see the person that we want them to see. Sometime this is the person that we portray because it feels more comfortable than just being ourselves. They see the person who has everything well thought out and all together.  However, often times when we leave work, church, and fellowships we Christians can sometimes put on a different face with a whole new character.

Home is where our true ministry begins…. It starts with our spouses and flows to our children. Our first and foremost calling is to reflect the love of God in our own homes.  How can we be effective to anyone else if we are not taking care of our first priorities?

Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. (1 Tim.5:8)

Why is it that we often have a harder time forgiving our spouses or our children then we have forgiving someone outside of our household? We feel a greater sense of obligation to the world than we do to our families when we treat strangers better than we do our own flesh and blood.

God will judge our love walk in its entirety!!!  Be doers of the word inside and outside of your home. The love walk that you preform outside of the home should be carried over from the love that is reflected at home.  We have to stop taking an “intermission” when we arrive home to the ones we have been given to love and honor.  Have you ever thought about how your spouse or children feel when they see the love of God in you when you speak to people at church or in the mall, but at home they see a different side?

Do not be like the double-minded man that is spoken of in James 1:8! Your leading role begins at home. Let your light shine from sun up to sun down.

I am joining you in this endeavor towards perfecting our marriages and families.

Cassandra McMichael