Does your marriage need maintenance ?

Why is it that we all understand the concept of getting an oil change or a tune-up in order to keep our cars running properly, however if you mention counseling or a marriage workshop people act as if its foreign and unspeakable?

Marriages need maintenance from time to time just like anything else. (Especially if you plan to stay married for a lifetime. ) Over the course of a marriage a lot of things can change. People change. Opinions change. Desires change. Even your situation can change. Taking care of your marriage is just as important as taking care of your car, your health, or your finances. It is vital that we make our marriage covenant a priority by doing the work that helps the marriage to grow.

Here are a few marriage maintenance activities that you and your spouse can do to give your marriage a winning chance of survival.

1.  Pray for your marriage.
2.  Attend a marriage workshop.
3.  Seek and maintain a couple that can serve as a marriage mentor.
4.  Schedule monthly meetings to discuss your marital issues and come up with plans to resolve concerns.
5.   Seek counseling from your pastor or a trusted counselor.
6.  Participate in your churches marriage ministry activities.
7.  Spend time with  other couples that enjoy marriage.

Marriage maintenance is a necessity for those with great marriages just as much as those with troubled marriages.  Most of us don’t wait until we run out gas to put gas in our vehicles. 🙂 We can apply the same  rule of thumb to our marriages. Don’t wait until a problem arises to seek help. May God‘s blessing be upon you and your family.


Increasing your faith!

It is inevitable that you will face some challenges along the way in marriage. Kids disappoint you, careers don’t fulfill all of the financial streams needed to provide for the family, and sometimes sickness attacks your body. Whatever the challenge that threatens the stability of your marriage know that God‘s promises have been thoroughly tested.(Psalm 119:140)

When the storms of life come we must stand firm with our spouse being strong in faith and giving all glory to God. The word of God says, “Let us hold fast the profession of our faith without wavering; (for he is faithful that promised;) Hebrews 10:23

We were never promised a life filled with endless happiness. His word informs us that we will indeed have some trials and tribulations while on this earth. How we deal with our personal trials will impact our children and our families.

When faced with a challenge in your marriage never forget the power of two.

“Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.” Matthew 18:19-20 (NIV)

God has created the perfect union in marriage! All it takes is two people on earth to agree about anything and he has said he will do it! Many times we are not activating God’s promises because we go in it alone. When our faith begins to waver about something we have no one to back us up . Married people need to support each in their prayer life just as much as in other areas.

Often times we are overtaken by life’s challenges simply because we fail to exercise our authority. There is so much power in having a partner that is able and willing to pray with you. Praying with your partner helps to increase your faith in God and His promises. The more you do it you will increase your faith and “nothing will be impossible to you.” Matthew 17:20 (NIV)

I am thankful to God for having a husband that is not ashamed to pray with me and for me. Many of God’s promises have come to pass because of his unwavering faith.  My prayer is that you and your partner will come to recognize the “power of two” and use it for life’s everyday challenges. May God be with you always.