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Angry Christians

A metaphorical visualization of the word Anger.

What are you angry about?

Many married couples are  holding anger inside that is specifically reserved for their mate. Some are angry because their spouse didn’t make the right business decision way back in 2001. Others are angry because their mate refuses to respect their position. A select few are angry because they don’t feel that their mate puts them first while forsaking all others. Let me first say this… Anger is a sin. It causes a great percentage of the incarcerations among adults and youth today. Anger destroys healthy marriages every year and the result is inevitable.

DIVORCE!!!

God desires that we carry ourselves in such a manner that would be pleasing to Him.

“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.  Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like.  But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do. Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless.” (James 1:19-26 NIV)

Anger is a dangerous emotion. It causes people to act in ungodly ways. It can cause a division that is hard to repair in marriages and families. God desires that you perfect your walk by being doers of his word. Guard your tongue, body, and thoughts from giving life to tragic circumstances.

It is unlikely that your mate will never again make you angry. However, it is your responsibly to remember God’s word that says, “Be angry but sin not.” (Eph.4:26) When we allow anger to lead us into sin we separate ourselves from God’s protection, thus allowing room for Satan to enter into our presence.

I challenge you to join me in praying for those marriages that you know are drowning in anger. If your marriage is one of them please don’t forget to pray for yourself!  Together we can reverse the curse of anger from gaining a foothold in generations to come.

Blessings, Cassandra

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Don’t go to bed angry!

When you first got married someone of the Christian faith probably quoted the following scripture:

“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.  (Ephesians 4:26-27 NIV)

This scripture happens to be one of the most famous quotes given to those saved and unsaved during marriage celebrations. For those that are not in the household of faith it probably sounds more like this:

“Never go to bed angry.”

This is no doubt one of the best pieces of advice that anyone seeking to stay married forever can receive. Anger is one of the most deadly emotions that anyone can have.  Anger can lead one to make horrible life choices that lead to long-term consequences.  The effects of anger have also been known to cause both physical and psychological illnesses in one’s body.

If you allow anger to fester in your marriage it will block your ability to love as God has commanded.  It is impossible to love your spouse unconditionally and be angry at them at the same time. Love and anger do not mix!!!  Anger seeks revenge and justice, whereas love seeks peace and joy.
Satan would love nothing more than to send you and your spouse to bed angry at one another. When he accomplishes this task he knows that he has gained a place in your marriage that he can use to begin his work.

When anger arises in your marriage make every attempt to make peace before going to bed. Do not allow Satan to begin steps at tearing your marriage apart by pitting you against each other.  We have a favorite line that we like to use when we see Satan trying to get a foothold in our marriage. We start by smiling at the other person and we say, “We’re on the same team.”

Do not let the sun go down when you’re angry! Instead take a time out and devise a plan that allows for a win-win situation. Don’t forget in the midst of your anger, “You both are on the same team too!”

Best wishes,

Cassandra