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God’s Promises (Part 1)

God’s Promises

Do you ever feel that God’s promises don’t apply to you? Sometimes balancing a marriage and a family can be difficult especially when you are trying to do it God’s way.  There are so many promises of God that we can find in the Bible that can help us in building happy marriages and in raising up children that will glorify God.  Let’s take a look at some of God’s promises today.

  • God promises that he will give us a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11)
  • He assures us that if we wait on him that he will restore our strength. (Isaiah 40:31)
  • We know that the same God who takes care of us will supply all our needs. (Philippians 4:19)
  • God promises that if we listen to him that we will live in peace untroubled by fear of harm. (Proverbs 1:33)
  • The testing of our faith develops perseverance, and perseverance leads to maturity and completion. (James 1:3-4)
  • Our children will not depart from what is right if we train them up in the things of God. (Proverbs 22:6)
  • God promises us that if we ask any thing according to his will that he will hear us and we will have it. (1 John 5:14-15)

How do we activate God’s promises in our life?

We can activate God’s promises through prayer! There is so much that God can do for us when we seek him diligently through our prayer life. Have you ever tossed to and fro throughout the night about some unpleasant life experience?  It is during these times that God expects us to activate his promises through communication with him. The Parable of the Persistent Widow shows us that if we persevere in prayer that God will answer our petitions. (Luke 18:1-8) The widow continued to plead her case for the unjust judge to grant her justice against her adversary.  God promises us time and time again in his word that he will bring justice for those that cry out to him.

The Holy Spirit revealed to me on yesterday that much of what we don’t have is because we don’t ask. Yesterday as I struggled to balance my responsibilities as a wife, mother, daughter, sister, and friend I realized one important thing after my husband prayed for me.


How can I expect to have all of God’s promises if I don’t ask for them?  How can I expect to be an overcomer if I don’t request God’s assistance?

Activate God’s promises today by making time to spend time dialoguing with God.  The prayers of the righteous availeth much. (James 5:16)

Is Your Spouse Your God?

Often times in our marriages we are so concerned with pleasing our mates that we end up neglecting our prayer life and our relationship with God. We must be careful not to love our spouses more than we love God! Showing more love and respect to our spouses than to God and His word leads God to become jealous.

God has commanded us to have no other god’s before Him. (Exodus 20:3) As Christians we must understand the order set forth by God from the very beginning. He requires that we make Him our first priority in our lives. Putting your spouse before God breaks the first commandment given to us by Christ.

It is essential to understand that in order to love your spouse the right way that you must love God the right way. We must be in true relationship with God in order for us to reap the best rewards in our marriages. Thus, loving God the right way means that we will give Him the honor and praise that is due Him every day. It also means that no one else should be able to replace Him in our hearts or lives. God desires for us to give Him our best. He does not want our leftovers!

Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. (Matt. 6:33 NIV)

When we give God our best he adds to our resources so that we can be abundantly blessed in our marriages, and in our families. I am very thankful that God has given me a godly man on this earth to provide for me and look after my concerns. However, I know and understand that God is truly the supplier of all of my needs and the force behind everything that I am and will ever become.

God alone is our provider and we must recognize that without Him we don’t have a chance at having heaven on earth. Put God first today and every day, and he will supply all of your needs in life and in marriage! (Phil. 4:19) God is so faithful!!!!


Take Off Your Pants!

There was a deep silence all over the house. The kids had gone to sleep a few hours earlier. I had just put my last load of clothes in the dryer. Suddenly, I heard a voice say, “Take off your pants. Come on, take them off.”

I looked around as I was certain that I recognized the voice. However, there was no one there…. I heard the voice again only this time softer and quicker,” Take them off….” The Holy Spirit was speaking to me about my role as a woman. It was clear that He was speaking metaphorically. He didn’t really want me to take off my pants, but He did want me to allow my husband to be the lead decision maker in our home. The Bible tells us that the man is called to be the head. I spent the first year of our marriage wanting to be heard, wanting to influence, and yes wanting to lead. God did not call the woman to lead the man, but the man to lead the woman.

The Bible states, “But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.”

(1 Corinthians 11:3)

God’s design for marriage makes it perfectly clear that the woman is the weaker vessel of the two. This proves true when we look back to the Garden of Eden. After all who was first deceived? It wasn’t until Eve was deceived by the serpent that Adam was lead into sin by his woman. (Gen: 3 ) Women were not made to be the “strong one” in marriage. We are too easily moved. 🙂

I hear women all the time talking about how overwhelmed they are. They are exhausted physically and emotionally. Women if you haven’t already taken off your pants, God is calling you to do so now. Allowing your man to walk in his calling will provide you the time and energy that you need to focus on other things like being the helpmate you were designed to be.

Men need to feel respected more than anything else in the world. They need the opportunity to be your “earthly savior.” They thrive on being able to make things happen for you. If your man is not fitting this description it is because you have been wearing the pants way to long. “So….. Take off your pants!”

For the men who are reading today, if you are not wearing the pants in your marriage it’s time for you to put on one leg at a time. Women feel safe in taking off their pants when they know that the man that they surrender them to will love them as Christ loved the church.

Let everyone take their rightful place…Marriage is so good when you do it God’s way!

Your friend,


Passing the Test

Has your marriage been tested lately? The devil is always seeking to destroy everything that is good like marriage. Rest assured that he will not be able to do anything to you without God’s approval.  In the spiritual realm a test is anything that tries your faith.  Thank God for sending the Bible to train us in the things of Him. We should be encouraged to know that “All scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness.” (2Tim.3:16) The word of God tells us that in this life we will have some trials and tribulations. Expect to encounter various tests in your marriage.

One of the greatest tests of our faith was when our first daughter Imani was born. Shortly after birth she was diagnosed with a rare genetic skin disorder called Ichthyosis. While in the hospital the doctors came to us and informed us that my husband and I probably had the gene that caused this disorder to appear in our daughter. Although neither of us had ever heard of this disorder nor been diagnosed with it we quickly became alarmed as they informed us of the ramifications of what this would mean for our daughter and any future children that we might have.

My daughter’s skin was very dry and scaly. We were told that she would likely be in and out of the hospital throughout her life and that she would be susceptible to a variety of infections.  Imani was seen by a specialist that conducted a biopsy.  The biopsy later confirmed that she did indeed have Ichthyosis. Wow!!!!!!!!!!!! My faith was being tested. I was discouraged and angered. I didn’t understand how something like that could happen to me. I wanted answers…….

I cried, and I cried, and I cried day after day as I watched my daughter’s skin peel and become drier than the day before. I became depressed as I imagined what her life might be like as she dealt with the disorder.  I questioned how God could let this happen and of course I asked, “Why me?”  I remember my husband saying, “She doesn’t have Ichthyosis. Just keep applying the ointment on her and stand in agreement with me.” This was a tough pill to swallow because I was the one to get the call that confirmed the diagnosis based upon the test results. However, I stood in faith with the head of my house and believed God for healing and restoration of her skin. I recall applying the ointment and saying out loud, “No weapon formed against my baby will prosper.  God is not a God that should lie. Imani is healed by His stripes! ”

To make a long story short Imani was indeed healed by God. Her skin was restored and made whole.  By the time we took her in for her 3 month evaluation at the specialist he responded, “I have never in my 22 years seen a case like this before. Her skin looks perfect. Unbelievable!” I smiled at my husband, and he smiled back at me. My heart screamed, “But God…………”  Imani (whose name means Faith in Swahili) has never again had any problems with her skin.

This remarkable test was only passed because we stood together as one believing that God could truly do anything.  He is not a man that should lie. God is able to heal any areas in your marriage that are broken just like He healed my sweet daughter.  I encourage you to stand in agreement with your spouse on any areas in your marriage in which you are being tested. It might be your finances, intimacy, your walk with God, or maybe even your livelihood.  No matter what it is God is able to do greater things than what we can ever imagine.  He is an awesome God! Trust Him with your dreams for your marriage.

To God be the Glory for all that He will do to restore that which is broken, and make better those things that are whole. I am believing God for you to have marital bliss this year!

Your friend,


Keeping Our Priorities in Order (Day 2)

Balancing life’s responsibilities continues to be one of the most challenging tasks for married couples. If we are to honor God’s plan and order for our marriages then we must seek first the kingdom of God. (Matt.6:33) If we are seeking first His kingdom then His kingdom will always lead us back to our “first ministry.” Your first ministry is your marriage!  My first ministry is my marriage!  This means that regardless of all the other things in our lives that demand our attention that those things should take a backseat.   This means that your children, your dreams, your family members, and so on must all take a backseat. Imagine seeing your neighbor and his family heading out for a drive on Sunday morning. What would you think if you saw the husband driving the car with the wife in the backseat and the son or daughter riding in the front? You would probably say to yourself, “I wonder what that is all about?” I am certain you would no doubt find this arrangement to be strange and out of order.
From the beginning of time marriage was one of the first things God created. He created Adam first and then Eve, not Eve and her children or vice versa.  God created Eve from Adam’s rib so that she could walk alongside side him so he would never again be alone. God’s vision was for them to always remember and honor their relationship with one another above all things (after Him.)  This is why the Bible instructs the man to leave and cleave to his wife and the wife to be a helpmate for her husband.
If we are to have heaven on earth in our marriages we must always keep our marriages first in our lives. Our first ministry requires daily love and attention.  Much like a flower our marriages must be watered frequently if we are to keep it alive and free from withering away. Thriving marriages are the end results when you make your marriage your first ministry.  Strife and divorce is what you reap if you neglect to keep your priorities in God’s perfect order.  Start today by intentionally scheduling time to show your spouse that your marriage is important to you. This might mean rescheduling your housecleaning or putting the kids to bed early so that you can take time out to listen and love on your spouse.
Don’t allow your marriage to fall by the waste side! Make your husband or wife your first priority today and reap the rewards of marital bliss.  I will be joining you in this important endeavor.  Marriage is so good!

With Love,