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The path to submission

Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.  Genesis 3:16 (KJV)

Following the fall of man God told Eve that her husband would rule over her and that her desires would be for her husband.  This was as a result for Eve’s part in disobeying God’s command not to eat of the tree of knowledge. Today God still requires that husbands rule over their wives and that wives submit to their husband’s leadership. There are many women that hate the word submission. Some  believe that being submissive means that you open the door to being mistreated and misguided by your husband. Others believe that it takes away from their strength as a woman and as an individual. Submission in God’s eye is much different than what we see with our natural eyes.

The woman that submits to her husband shows an understanding of the following principles with her supernatural eyes:

1. Submitting to our husbands shows the world that we have a desire to have a Godly character.

Do not let your adornment be merely outward-arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel-rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. (1 Peter 3:3-4 (NKJV)

2. Submitting to our husbands shows that we trust God.

For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands,(1 Peter 3:5 (NKJV)

We  do not have to protect ourselves. God will provide for our needs! We will not be harmed through submission.

3.  Submitting to our husbands shows them that we respect them. As a result to our submission they will grow into their God-given leadership roles.

Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, (1 Peter 3:1 (NKJV)

What is the path to submission?

The path begins with a desire to honor God’s perfect order for marriage. Along this path we must learn to develop a servant spirit. Having the servant spirit will help us to develop the desire to please our husbands at all cost.

Begin the path to submission! God promises that we will inherit a blessing through our obedience to His ways!

Yours in Christ,

Cassandra

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Is Your Spouse Your God?

Often times in our marriages we are so concerned with pleasing our mates that we end up neglecting our prayer life and our relationship with God. We must be careful not to love our spouses more than we love God! Showing more love and respect to our spouses than to God and His word leads God to become jealous.

God has commanded us to have no other god’s before Him. (Exodus 20:3) As Christians we must understand the order set forth by God from the very beginning. He requires that we make Him our first priority in our lives. Putting your spouse before God breaks the first commandment given to us by Christ.

It is essential to understand that in order to love your spouse the right way that you must love God the right way. We must be in true relationship with God in order for us to reap the best rewards in our marriages. Thus, loving God the right way means that we will give Him the honor and praise that is due Him every day. It also means that no one else should be able to replace Him in our hearts or lives. God desires for us to give Him our best. He does not want our leftovers!

Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. (Matt. 6:33 NIV)

When we give God our best he adds to our resources so that we can be abundantly blessed in our marriages, and in our families. I am very thankful that God has given me a godly man on this earth to provide for me and look after my concerns. However, I know and understand that God is truly the supplier of all of my needs and the force behind everything that I am and will ever become.

God alone is our provider and we must recognize that without Him we don’t have a chance at having heaven on earth. Put God first today and every day, and he will supply all of your needs in life and in marriage! (Phil. 4:19) God is so faithful!!!!

Cassandra

Your thoughts will determine your future!

What are your thoughts about your marriage? Do you believe your relationship will last forever, or are you expecting a bitter end in the near future?

If you know someone that has been divorced ask them this question…. “When did you know that your marriage wasn’t going to last?” Many people that have been divorced before will tell you that they knew early on that they would not remain in that union for the rest of their lives. This might be stocking to some of you that are doing marriage God’s way. However, when we don’t do marriage His way we are always expecting the unexpected to happen because we don’t give God an opportunity to work in ourselves or our spouses.  Some of us have very little faith that He can truly transform our marriages from hell on earth to heaven on earth.

The word tells us in Proverbs 23:7 that “so as a man thinketh so will he be…”  This means that our thoughts can lead to words and our words can lead to our truth.  What is your “truth “about your marriage? Do you believe that the enemies’ attempts to destroy your marriage will prevail, or do you know without a doubt that you can do all things through Christ that strengthens you? (Philippians  4:13)

Joseph and I were returning from a marriage function this weekend called “Eat, laugh, and Love.”  I happened to look up just as we were passing this rather large billboard that read, “1-800- DIVORCE.”   My spirit screamed,” I rebuke Divorce in Jesus Name!”  The enemy is lurking everywhere seeking to destroy what is good!  It is essential in marriage to cast down all thoughts and imaginations that do not line up with the word of God.(  2 Cor. 10:5) Christians must be equipped for the fight by studying the word of God and having a sufficient amount of word that they can speak over themselves and their mates in the time of trouble. If you know and believe that there is an enemy waiting to attack you then you must arm yourself with the necessary weapons to avoid being overtaken by surprise!

Start speaking the word over your marriage today! Your positive words will transform your truth to line up with God’s truth. God’s truth says,” That if you abide in Him he will abide in you!  (1 John 4:13) God’s truth says, “All things work for the good of those that love him. (Romans 8:28)

Surrender your negative thoughts for positive thoughts. You will be glad that you did! God is our Jehovah  Jireh!!! He truly seeks pleasure in providing you with all good and perfect gifts. Receive the gift of a Godly marriage!

We can perfect our marriages together by changing how we think!

Stay encouraged,

Cassandra

Take Off Your Pants!

There was a deep silence all over the house. The kids had gone to sleep a few hours earlier. I had just put my last load of clothes in the dryer. Suddenly, I heard a voice say, “Take off your pants. Come on, take them off.”

I looked around as I was certain that I recognized the voice. However, there was no one there…. I heard the voice again only this time softer and quicker,” Take them off….” The Holy Spirit was speaking to me about my role as a woman. It was clear that He was speaking metaphorically. He didn’t really want me to take off my pants, but He did want me to allow my husband to be the lead decision maker in our home. The Bible tells us that the man is called to be the head. I spent the first year of our marriage wanting to be heard, wanting to influence, and yes wanting to lead. God did not call the woman to lead the man, but the man to lead the woman.

The Bible states, “But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.”

(1 Corinthians 11:3)

God’s design for marriage makes it perfectly clear that the woman is the weaker vessel of the two. This proves true when we look back to the Garden of Eden. After all who was first deceived? It wasn’t until Eve was deceived by the serpent that Adam was lead into sin by his woman. (Gen: 3 ) Women were not made to be the “strong one” in marriage. We are too easily moved. 🙂

I hear women all the time talking about how overwhelmed they are. They are exhausted physically and emotionally. Women if you haven’t already taken off your pants, God is calling you to do so now. Allowing your man to walk in his calling will provide you the time and energy that you need to focus on other things like being the helpmate you were designed to be.

Men need to feel respected more than anything else in the world. They need the opportunity to be your “earthly savior.” They thrive on being able to make things happen for you. If your man is not fitting this description it is because you have been wearing the pants way to long. “So….. Take off your pants!”

For the men who are reading today, if you are not wearing the pants in your marriage it’s time for you to put on one leg at a time. Women feel safe in taking off their pants when they know that the man that they surrender them to will love them as Christ loved the church.

Let everyone take their rightful place…Marriage is so good when you do it God’s way!

Your friend,

Cassandra

Love Beyond Today!

I am probably one of the few women that are not overly moved by the hoopla of Valentine’s Day. Valentine’s Day has been for centuries the one day  set aside to show love to those in your life by the way of flowers, candy, and cards.

We find people dining out, and enjoying one another’s company all while adding to the economy’s pocket by way of billions of dollars. But what happens tomorrow? Will we still show the overwhelming signs of love in our relationships that we show today?  Another great key to marriage is realizing that you can do and say all the right things today, but what you do tomorrow will be remembered the most.

Tomorrow comes every day!  This means we have another opportunity to walk out God’s commandment to love one another as He has loved us. (1 John 4:11)

Today I encourage you to make a commitment to making every day Valentine’s Day in your marriage. My greatest joy today is knowing that even when tomorrow comes I will still be finding my favorite treats hidden for me to discover by surprise.

Showing your spouse this daily type of affection sets a message for your children that your love is real and appreciated.  Last month my three year old daughter said, “Mommy, I’m going to get me a husband.” When I asked why she wanted to get married her response was, “So I can get some treats too!” Later on that day she told me that her husband’s name was going to be “Honey.” 🙂  This sent chills all over me knowing that at this young age that my 3 year old recognized the signs of being and feeling loved and that she wanted that too!  I was overjoyed! This was what I felt was an awesome testimony to my husband that  our daughter could see that he was indeed fulfilling his role in “loving me as Christ loved the church.”

Let us all show lasting love beyond today……

Remember what you do tomorrow will be what is remembered the most!