President Obama declared a few weeks ago week that he believes that gays and lesbians should have the right to marry. While his opinion shocked many it also evoked much excitement and gratitude for those who live alternative lifestyles. His declaration of approval left me with mixed emotions.
As a Christian I believe that we all fall short of God’s glory. None of us are perfect that walk this earth. I can openly admit to making lots of mistakes in my lifetime some of which can be seen as conflicting with my Christian beliefs. However, the fact remains that as a Christian I believe that our actions, opinions and beliefs should always line up with the word of God and when they don’t we should repent. How can we represent God if we fail to respect or accurately interpret His word and design for mankind?
I am not by any means saying that I am against gays or lesbians any more than I am saying that I am for them. I believe that God would be pleased if we all treated each other with love and compassion instead of with hate or disgust. However, while I am certain that he wants us to show compassion to those that have different views and lifestyles than our on, I can’t imagine that He would want us to compromise our spiritual beliefs for any reason. God has made His views known to all in his word. Marriage was originally designed to be between one man and one woman.( 1 Corinthians 6:9-11; 1 &Timothy 1:9-10 )Marriage is sacred and is a covenant that was created by God.
It is evident in the world around us that not everyone will honor or believe as we believe as Christians. Yet, does that make it alright for Christians to start compromising the sacredness of God’s legal authority of the land? Whose side are we on when we go against the written word? Man’s or God’s……
I want to hear your thoughts. Do you agree or disagree with Obama’s view? Respectfully, I believe that marriage should be recognized only if it is between a man and a woman.
1 What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? 2 You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God. 3 When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.
(James 4:1-3 NIV)
Does pride keep you from doing what you know is right? The bible encourages Christians to yield to our own desires and to submit to the will of God. Pride is one factor that keeps couples from willingly submitting to one another as God has commanded.
When we are prideful in marriage it results in us distancing ourselves from our spouse and causes us to be in contempt of their value. Their opinions or feelings no longer matter because we begin to feel superior in our own thinking and being.
Pride is often what leads many marriages into divorce court. In marriage both partners must submit to God. When we are submitted to God he will always work things out for our good. (Romans 8:28) Total submission to God means letting go of the need to be right or the desire to be in control.
Resist the desire to be among those that seek to please themselves more than anyone else. Unlock God’s power in your life by walking in true humility.
Often times in our marriages we are so concerned with pleasing our mates that we end up neglecting our prayer life and our relationship with God. We must be careful not to love our spouses more than we love God! Showing more love and respect to our spouses than to God and His word leads God to become jealous.
God has commanded us to have no other god’s before Him. (Exodus 20:3) As Christians we must understand the order set forth by God from the very beginning. He requires that we make Him our first priority in our lives. Putting your spouse before God breaks the first commandment given to us by Christ.
It is essential to understand that in order to love your spouse the right way that you must love God the right way. We must be in true relationship with God in order for us to reap the best rewards in our marriages. Thus, loving God the right way means that we will give Him the honor and praise that is due Him every day. It also means that no one else should be able to replace Him in our hearts or lives. God desires for us to give Him our best. He does not want our leftovers!
Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. (Matt. 6:33 NIV)
When we give God our best he adds to our resources so that we can be abundantly blessed in our marriages, and in our families. I am very thankful that God has given me a godly man on this earth to provide for me and look after my concerns. However, I know and understand that God is truly the supplier of all of my needs and the force behind everything that I am and will ever become.
God alone is our provider and we must recognize that without Him we don’t have a chance at having heaven on earth. Put God first today and every day, and he will supply all of your needs in life and in marriage! (Phil. 4:19) God is so faithful!!!!
Have you ever been late on a credit card bill? If you have then you know that once your 1 day past the due date that they will start ringing your phone off the hook. When they finally catch up with you they will say something like, “Hi. We’re just calling to remind you that you forgot to pay your bill. Can I help you stay in good standing with us by taking a payment over the phone today?” Bill collectors are trained well to keep you in good standing with their companies.
We should make every effort to stay in good standing with our spouses just as we would do with a bill collector. If you promise your spouse that you’re going to do something then you should make every effort to fulfill your promise.
When we don’t meet our agreements or promises in marriage it can cause our mates to become uncertain about our priorities. It can also cause trust issues to surface when your word becomes null and void because you fail to honor your commitments.
We need to be more like God. When He tells you that he is going to do something we are always assured that His promises will come to pass. The Bible tells us that it is impossible for God to lie. (Heb. 6:18; Titus 1:2) If he says he will do it then he will do it! We never have to worry about Him canceling on us at the last moment, or about being disappointed in the way He handles something.
You can help your spouse to remain confident in your relationship by letting your yes be yes and your no be no! (James 5:12) Never make promises to your spouse to do something that you know you don’t want to do or can’t do. Your lack of effort will speak volumes to your spouse when they see that you just can’t seem to get things done on your “honey to do list.”
We all know that sometimes things happen that are totally out of our control, however do not let this be the norm in your marriage. When issues arise that prevent you from honoring your word take the time to communicate with your mate. Let them know that you really want to keep your promises and discuss any obstacles that you are having towards fulfilling your promise. Communication is the key to bridging the gap between the truth and what your spouse may perceive based on your inactivity towards achieving that desired promise.
Take authority over your life and stay in good standing with your spouse. Being in good standing with your spouse will make Satan‘s attacks a lot easier to defeat quickly and efficiently!
We are joining you in these honorable efforts. To God be the glory for all He is doing in our marriages!
If you ever want to know the truth about yourself asks your spouse. They know the in’s and out’s about you better than anybody other than God himself. They know what bugs you, what makes you smile, and even what gets your creative mind going. They get to see the good and the bad more than anyone else in your circle of friends and family.
Outside the home people get to see the person that we want them to see. Sometime this is the person that we portray because it feels more comfortable than just being ourselves. They see the person who has everything well thought out and all together. However, often times when we leave work, church, and fellowships we Christians can sometimes put on a different face with a whole new character.
Home is where our true ministry begins…. It starts with our spouses and flows to our children. Our first and foremost calling is to reflect the love of God in our own homes. How can we be effective to anyone else if we are not taking care of our first priorities?
Anyone who does not provide for their relatives, and especially for their own household, has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. (1 Tim.5:8)
Why is it that we often have a harder time forgiving our spouses or our children then we have forgiving someone outside of our household? We feel a greater sense of obligation to the world than we do to our families when we treat strangers better than we do our own flesh and blood.
God will judge our love walk in its entirety!!! Be doers of the word inside and outside of your home. The love walk that you preform outside of the home should be carried over from the love that is reflected at home. We have to stop taking an “intermission” when we arrive home to the ones we have been given to love and honor. Have you ever thought about how your spouse or children feel when they see the love of God in you when you speak to people at church or in the mall, but at home they see a different side?
Do not be like the double-minded man that is spoken of in James 1:8! Your leading role begins at home. Let your light shine from sun up to sun down.
I am joining you in this endeavor towards perfecting our marriages and families.
- Making Love Matter (marriageisgood.wordpress.com)
- Carnal Christians (marriageisgood.wordpress.com)
- Love is… (stilldatingmyspouse.com)
- Forgiveness in Marriage (Part 1) (marriageisgood.net)
What are your thoughts about your marriage? Do you believe your relationship will last forever, or are you expecting a bitter end in the near future?
If you know someone that has been divorced ask them this question…. “When did you know that your marriage wasn’t going to last?” Many people that have been divorced before will tell you that they knew early on that they would not remain in that union for the rest of their lives. This might be stocking to some of you that are doing marriage God’s way. However, when we don’t do marriage His way we are always expecting the unexpected to happen because we don’t give God an opportunity to work in ourselves or our spouses. Some of us have very little faith that He can truly transform our marriages from hell on earth to heaven on earth.
The word tells us in Proverbs 23:7 that “so as a man thinketh so will he be…” This means that our thoughts can lead to words and our words can lead to our truth. What is your “truth “about your marriage? Do you believe that the enemies’ attempts to destroy your marriage will prevail, or do you know without a doubt that you can do all things through Christ that strengthens you? (Philippians 4:13)
Joseph and I were returning from a marriage function this weekend called “Eat, laugh, and Love.” I happened to look up just as we were passing this rather large billboard that read, “1-800- DIVORCE.” My spirit screamed,” I rebuke Divorce in Jesus Name!” The enemy is lurking everywhere seeking to destroy what is good! It is essential in marriage to cast down all thoughts and imaginations that do not line up with the word of God.( 2 Cor. 10:5) Christians must be equipped for the fight by studying the word of God and having a sufficient amount of word that they can speak over themselves and their mates in the time of trouble. If you know and believe that there is an enemy waiting to attack you then you must arm yourself with the necessary weapons to avoid being overtaken by surprise!
Start speaking the word over your marriage today! Your positive words will transform your truth to line up with God’s truth. God’s truth says,” That if you abide in Him he will abide in you! (1 John 4:13) God’s truth says, “All things work for the good of those that love him. (Romans 8:28)
Surrender your negative thoughts for positive thoughts. You will be glad that you did! God is our Jehovah Jireh!!! He truly seeks pleasure in providing you with all good and perfect gifts. Receive the gift of a Godly marriage!
We can perfect our marriages together by changing how we think!
- Carnal Christians (marriageisgood.wordpress.com)
- Doing It God’s Way (marriagelifeisgood.com)
Have you ever wondered what your spouse has to say about you in your absence? We often encounter situations that we never dreamed could actually end up making us think about ourselves, and our own relationships with the ones we love. This past weekend I crossed paths with a stranger. We will call him Doug. Doug is what I would call a seasoned married man because he has been married for almost 20 years. Being that we serve an awesome God I had an opportunity to be in the right place at the right time to hear Doug vent about his wife. It was life changing for me to hear a man’s point of view as to how they view their wives “busyness” as it relates to taking care of our homes, our children , and our “wifely responsibilities.” I was privileged to hear firsthand how one might feel just a bit slighted when the person we have committed our life to doesn’t keep their priorities in God’s perfect order. This week I will be talking in great detail about the need for us to prioritize our lives in a way that is honorable to God.
First let me start by saying that God loves marriage as shown throughout the Bible. Those that are married have been called to abide by God’s divine order. Nothing in our lives should come before God! Those that are married are called to place their marriages first in their lives after Him. Many of us find this order hard to follow when children are involved. However, let me assure you that placing your children, family, or anything else before your spouse will always lead to strife in your marriage. Hearing this man’s story blessed me deeply because it confirms how important it is to communicate your true feelings with your spouse daily. Often times we neglect to share certain aspects of how we feel about something because we feel like the one we love should already know how we feel, or that maybe the way we feel will lead to confusion in our marriage. Let us take time this week to improve our communication with our spouses and to discover how keeping our priorities in order can be a blessing to our marriages.