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Self-righteous Behavior

Are you a bit self- righteous? Self- righteous people can be the most annoying people to be around. They are the ones that think everything they do is right and everything you do is wrong. Even in the midst of their own troubles they find time to insult, humiliate, or judge others around them. These type of people make others very uncomfortable during their interactions and this is therefore often the cause of many broken relationships.

Self-righteousness  people tend to think that their thinking process is superior to everyone else’s. They often use condensing and judgmental comments to prove that their opinions or feelings are more valuable than yours. Self-righteous attitudes can destroy marriages and other relationships faster than other sins because it becomes obvious to others  around you that your thinking leads your decisions.  When the focus of your thinking is “self-righteous” you are only concerned with being right.  You have little ability to see things from other people’s point of view which can be a big turn off to family, friends, and even coworkers.

The bible tells us that the Master will know our character by our fruit.  What fruit is growing on your tree??? Whether it is self-righteousness  or some other sinful behavior it’s time to make a change. God desires for us to grow our relationships by developing in the fruit of the spirits.

If you are exhibiting self-righteous thinking in your marriage or relationships take time to meditate on the scriptures below.

Gal. 5:22-23
Matthew 7:19-21
James 3:18

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Obama’s Shocking Declaration

President Obama declared a few weeks ago week that he believes that gays and lesbians should have the right to marry. While his opinion shocked many it also evoked much excitement and gratitude for those who live alternative lifestyles. His declaration of approval left me with mixed emotions.

As a Christian I believe that we all fall short of God’s glory. None of us are perfect that walk this earth.   I can openly admit to making lots of mistakes in my lifetime some of which can be seen as conflicting with my Christian beliefs.  However, the fact remains that as a Christian I believe that our actions, opinions and beliefs should always line up with the word of God and when they don’t we should repent. How can we represent God if we fail to respect or accurately interpret His word and design for mankind?

I am not by any means saying that I am against gays or lesbians any more than I am saying that I am for them. I believe that God would be pleased if we all treated each other with love and compassion instead of with hate or disgust. However, while I am certain that he wants us to show compassion to those that have different views and lifestyles than our on, I can’t imagine that He would want us to compromise our spiritual beliefs for any reason. God has made His views known to all in his word. Marriage was originally designed to be between one man and one woman.( 1 Corinthians 6:9-11; 1 &Timothy 1:9-10 )Marriage is sacred and is a covenant that was created by God.

It is evident in the world around us that not everyone will honor or believe as we believe as Christians. Yet, does that make it alright for Christians to start compromising the sacredness of God’s legal authority of the land? Whose side are we on when we go against the written word? Man’s or God’s……

I want to hear your thoughts. Do you agree or disagree with Obama’s view? Respectfully, I believe that marriage should be recognized only if it is between a man and a woman.

Deeply Saddened,

Cassandra

 

The path to submission

Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.  Genesis 3:16 (KJV)

Following the fall of man God told Eve that her husband would rule over her and that her desires would be for her husband.  This was as a result for Eve’s part in disobeying God’s command not to eat of the tree of knowledge. Today God still requires that husbands rule over their wives and that wives submit to their husband’s leadership. There are many women that hate the word submission. Some  believe that being submissive means that you open the door to being mistreated and misguided by your husband. Others believe that it takes away from their strength as a woman and as an individual. Submission in God’s eye is much different than what we see with our natural eyes.

The woman that submits to her husband shows an understanding of the following principles with her supernatural eyes:

1. Submitting to our husbands shows the world that we have a desire to have a Godly character.

Do not let your adornment be merely outward-arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel-rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. (1 Peter 3:3-4 (NKJV)

2. Submitting to our husbands shows that we trust God.

For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands,(1 Peter 3:5 (NKJV)

We  do not have to protect ourselves. God will provide for our needs! We will not be harmed through submission.

3.  Submitting to our husbands shows them that we respect them. As a result to our submission they will grow into their God-given leadership roles.

Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, (1 Peter 3:1 (NKJV)

What is the path to submission?

The path begins with a desire to honor God’s perfect order for marriage. Along this path we must learn to develop a servant spirit. Having the servant spirit will help us to develop the desire to please our husbands at all cost.

Begin the path to submission! God promises that we will inherit a blessing through our obedience to His ways!

Yours in Christ,

Cassandra

What’s in your Alabaster box?

The covenant between men and women requires that you be willing to break open your Alabaster box. An Alabaster box was used in biblical times to carry something of importance to an individual.  In Matthew 26:7-9, Mary broke open her Alabaster box to get to her most valued and treasured item– her expensive perfume. She took her perfume and poured it over Jesus’ head not at all concerned that there was nothing left for herself. This was a selfless act on her part. She gave her all out of love and respect for her Lord and Savior.

In reading this passage we find out that the others that were present were in disbelief because they  felt it was  a waste and surely imagined that it would be worth more for her to sale her perfume  in hopes to make a profit. This story touches me every time I read it. I realize how much it costs to give unselfishly to someone you love. In marriage everything may not always be the way you want it or the way you imagined it. However, if you break open your Alabaster box and give freely of all your resources, hurts, and ambitions  then and only then can you love your spouse in new ways.

What is in your Alabaster box? Are you carrying pain from the past? Do you keep something on the side just in case your marriage doesn’t work out? Are you depriving your spouse of true intimacy with you because of fear of being hurt?

Whatever it is that you have saved in your Alabaster box break it open today.  The breaking of your box will free you. God works best with broken vessels.   Allow God to renew your marriage by releasing your most precious possessions. You will be glad you did.

Cassandra

Angry Christians

A metaphorical visualization of the word Anger.

What are you angry about?

Many married couples are  holding anger inside that is specifically reserved for their mate. Some are angry because their spouse didn’t make the right business decision way back in 2001. Others are angry because their mate refuses to respect their position. A select few are angry because they don’t feel that their mate puts them first while forsaking all others. Let me first say this… Anger is a sin. It causes a great percentage of the incarcerations among adults and youth today. Anger destroys healthy marriages every year and the result is inevitable.

DIVORCE!!!

God desires that we carry ourselves in such a manner that would be pleasing to Him.

“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says.  Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like.  But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do. Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless.” (James 1:19-26 NIV)

Anger is a dangerous emotion. It causes people to act in ungodly ways. It can cause a division that is hard to repair in marriages and families. God desires that you perfect your walk by being doers of his word. Guard your tongue, body, and thoughts from giving life to tragic circumstances.

It is unlikely that your mate will never again make you angry. However, it is your responsibly to remember God’s word that says, “Be angry but sin not.” (Eph.4:26) When we allow anger to lead us into sin we separate ourselves from God’s protection, thus allowing room for Satan to enter into our presence.

I challenge you to join me in praying for those marriages that you know are drowning in anger. If your marriage is one of them please don’t forget to pray for yourself!  Together we can reverse the curse of anger from gaining a foothold in generations to come.

Blessings, Cassandra

God’s Promises (Part 1)

God’s Promises

Do you ever feel that God’s promises don’t apply to you? Sometimes balancing a marriage and a family can be difficult especially when you are trying to do it God’s way.  There are so many promises of God that we can find in the Bible that can help us in building happy marriages and in raising up children that will glorify God.  Let’s take a look at some of God’s promises today.

  • God promises that he will give us a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11)
  • He assures us that if we wait on him that he will restore our strength. (Isaiah 40:31)
  • We know that the same God who takes care of us will supply all our needs. (Philippians 4:19)
  • God promises that if we listen to him that we will live in peace untroubled by fear of harm. (Proverbs 1:33)
  • The testing of our faith develops perseverance, and perseverance leads to maturity and completion. (James 1:3-4)
  • Our children will not depart from what is right if we train them up in the things of God. (Proverbs 22:6)
  • God promises us that if we ask any thing according to his will that he will hear us and we will have it. (1 John 5:14-15)

How do we activate God’s promises in our life?

We can activate God’s promises through prayer! There is so much that God can do for us when we seek him diligently through our prayer life. Have you ever tossed to and fro throughout the night about some unpleasant life experience?  It is during these times that God expects us to activate his promises through communication with him. The Parable of the Persistent Widow shows us that if we persevere in prayer that God will answer our petitions. (Luke 18:1-8) The widow continued to plead her case for the unjust judge to grant her justice against her adversary.  God promises us time and time again in his word that he will bring justice for those that cry out to him.

The Holy Spirit revealed to me on yesterday that much of what we don’t have is because we don’t ask. Yesterday as I struggled to balance my responsibilities as a wife, mother, daughter, sister, and friend I realized one important thing after my husband prayed for me.

PRAYER CHANGES THINGS!

How can I expect to have all of God’s promises if I don’t ask for them?  How can I expect to be an overcomer if I don’t request God’s assistance?

Activate God’s promises today by making time to spend time dialoguing with God.  The prayers of the righteous availeth much. (James 5:16)

Beyond the Honeymoon Phase

Most of us got married because we found the one person that we were head over heels in love with. We enjoyed their company, we adored their smile, and we felt as if our life was somehow improved just because of their presence. Many couples will enjoy this “Honeymoon Phase” for years to come or for others it can be short lived.

What do we do when the “Honeymoon Phase is over?”

It is important for couples to realize that marriage is a covenant relationship that can stand the test of time. It is normal for couples to go through periods of time in which they may not “feel” that same closeness that they felt the day they walked down the aisle. Feelings are nothing more than passing emotions. Marriage requires that partners put their emotions aside in order to honor the commitment that they made before God.

Joseph and I realized early in our relationship that it took more than love to build a happy marriage. We came to understand that marriage requires both partners to be committed to the vow. Being committed to the vow means that both parties will refrain from allowing negative thoughts to enter into their minds.

We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ. (2 Cor.10:5 NIV)

Negative thoughts can be anything as small as one believing that their spouse no longer appreciates them to something as big as feeling unloved and no longer desired.  It is necessary for couples to recommit themselves to their spouses periodically. A good time to do this is near or on your anniversary.  During this time we suggest that you both share your vulnerabilities about your relationship and then reaffirm your love and commitment to one another.

We encourage you to make time throughout the year to talk through any conflicting thoughts or perceived notions about the status of your relationship. Remember, emotions may change, but recommitting to your marriage vows will help you stay in right relationship with God and each other.