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God’s Promises (Part 1)

God’s Promises

Do you ever feel that God’s promises don’t apply to you? Sometimes balancing a marriage and a family can be difficult especially when you are trying to do it God’s way.  There are so many promises of God that we can find in the Bible that can help us in building happy marriages and in raising up children that will glorify God.  Let’s take a look at some of God’s promises today.

  • God promises that he will give us a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11)
  • He assures us that if we wait on him that he will restore our strength. (Isaiah 40:31)
  • We know that the same God who takes care of us will supply all our needs. (Philippians 4:19)
  • God promises that if we listen to him that we will live in peace untroubled by fear of harm. (Proverbs 1:33)
  • The testing of our faith develops perseverance, and perseverance leads to maturity and completion. (James 1:3-4)
  • Our children will not depart from what is right if we train them up in the things of God. (Proverbs 22:6)
  • God promises us that if we ask any thing according to his will that he will hear us and we will have it. (1 John 5:14-15)

How do we activate God’s promises in our life?

We can activate God’s promises through prayer! There is so much that God can do for us when we seek him diligently through our prayer life. Have you ever tossed to and fro throughout the night about some unpleasant life experience?  It is during these times that God expects us to activate his promises through communication with him. The Parable of the Persistent Widow shows us that if we persevere in prayer that God will answer our petitions. (Luke 18:1-8) The widow continued to plead her case for the unjust judge to grant her justice against her adversary.  God promises us time and time again in his word that he will bring justice for those that cry out to him.

The Holy Spirit revealed to me on yesterday that much of what we don’t have is because we don’t ask. Yesterday as I struggled to balance my responsibilities as a wife, mother, daughter, sister, and friend I realized one important thing after my husband prayed for me.

PRAYER CHANGES THINGS!

How can I expect to have all of God’s promises if I don’t ask for them?  How can I expect to be an overcomer if I don’t request God’s assistance?

Activate God’s promises today by making time to spend time dialoguing with God.  The prayers of the righteous availeth much. (James 5:16)

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Healing From Past Hurts

I gazed out the window…. It was dark and not a person in sight. Joseph and I had just had one of our first “heated conversations” while on our way home from Christmas dinner with family. By the end of the conversation, I was left feeling deeply confused….I recall asking myself,” What is really going on here?”

Joseph and I had only been married about 9 months at the time.  It didn’t take long for me to realize following that night’s events that Joseph was paying the price for someone else’s sins.
If you read,” Help me… I’m living in Hell”, then you are well aware that I was holding on to some anger from a previous relationship. While it was eye opening to see how the devil had used my past to haunt my future I was not strong enough to “fight the good fight of faith.” I wanted very deeply to put on my whole amour of God so that I could stand up to the tricks of the devil as it says in Ephesians 6:11. However, no matter how hard I tried in and of myself I needed help and we know that “help cometh from the Lord!”

Joseph was a praying man so I know that he could see with his spiritual eyes what the enemy was trying to do in our marriage. Instead of being angry at me, he took his petitions to the Lord.  When your spouse’s past haunts their future you must remember what it states in Ephesians 6:12.

For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.

Our question for today is,” How do you heal your spouse from past hurts?”

Let me first begin with what you don’t do…. You don’t make matters worse by surrendering to the enemies’ camp. You don’t fall in line with the enemies tricks and seek to destroy your spouse with harsh words and emotional and physical attacks!
Instead you walk in love and do what is encouraged in the Bible you STAND ready for spiritual warfare.

Ephesians 6:13-18 reads:

13 Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand.14 Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, 15 and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; 16 above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. 17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; 18 praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints;
Joseph put on his amour daily… In fact I think he slept in it many of nights!  The Holy Spirit has given us authority in every area of our lives.  We can take authority over every spirit that tries to put up roadblocks in our marriages. We can stand against every thought that tries to hold our spouses hostage to the past!

I am so thankful that Joseph showed me his true colors early in our marriage. He didn’t give up on me. He didn’t stoop to my level. He didn’t attack me. He helped to heal me from my past by simply being the answer for my future.  He worked hard at loving me the right way so that my past could truly become my past.  Your spouse can be healed with your help! Stand up to the “spirit of the past” and do marriage God’s way. We promise that in the end you will reap the benefits of God’s best when he transforms your mate.

Cassandra

How Do You Teach a Dog New Tricks?

Have you ever heard the proverb, “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks?” This basically leads one to believe that you can’t change who people are.   We know that this is partially true…. You can’t change someone, but with the help of God people can and do change.

It is common for us to develop bad habits in life especially within our marital relationships. Many of us bring baggage from pass relationships with our parents, friends, and even opposite sex relationships. Often times, we are unaware that we have so many hang ups and it takes getting married for everything to start falling out of our “emotional bags.”

When dealing with a spouse that is resistant to change one must first of all stay in prayer. Staying in prayer requires that you must make a commitment to communicate with God on a daily basis. It is nearly impossible to see change if you are not first seeking the kingdom of God. (Matt: 6:33)

When believers begin to seek God about others the Holy Spirit will more than likely direct you back to yourself. We must make sure that we are first and foremost doers of the word. (James 1:22) This means that we must be making every effort to treat our spouses with the love, kindness, and respect that we expect to get in return. If you read, “Help Me…. I’m Living in Hell” then you already know that I was very much resistant to change. I wanted to remain angry because of the people that hurt me in the past. There was no way I was going to allow myself to be hurt again so I did what most people do…. I built a wall around myself to protect myself from being hurt.

While I was building walls one brick at a time, Joseph was being obedient to God and continued to love me as Christ loved the church. I remember waking up to him laying hands on me and praying over me. I remember him praying in the spirit while ironing his clothes for work, and hearing him say, “Lord I love my wife today more than I did the day I married her.” Now that’s love!!!

How do you deal with a spouse that is resistant to change? You pray, and pray and pray some more! Joseph saw me for the beautiful woman I would become once I was healed from past hurts. He led by example. He didn’t wait until I changed to give me his best….  He gave me his best and then I changed!!

If your spouse is resistant to change their ways, or if they are determined to build a wall we urge you to pray for them daily.  We encourage you to see your mate through new eyes and love them today like they are the person you’ve always dreamed of.

People can and do change… You can help facilitate change in your spouse by putting on the love of God and allowing your life to be a reflection of Christ.

Be encouraged,

Cassandra

Take Off Your Pants!

There was a deep silence all over the house. The kids had gone to sleep a few hours earlier. I had just put my last load of clothes in the dryer. Suddenly, I heard a voice say, “Take off your pants. Come on, take them off.”

I looked around as I was certain that I recognized the voice. However, there was no one there…. I heard the voice again only this time softer and quicker,” Take them off….” The Holy Spirit was speaking to me about my role as a woman. It was clear that He was speaking metaphorically. He didn’t really want me to take off my pants, but He did want me to allow my husband to be the lead decision maker in our home. The Bible tells us that the man is called to be the head. I spent the first year of our marriage wanting to be heard, wanting to influence, and yes wanting to lead. God did not call the woman to lead the man, but the man to lead the woman.

The Bible states, “But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God.”

(1 Corinthians 11:3)

God’s design for marriage makes it perfectly clear that the woman is the weaker vessel of the two. This proves true when we look back to the Garden of Eden. After all who was first deceived? It wasn’t until Eve was deceived by the serpent that Adam was lead into sin by his woman. (Gen: 3 ) Women were not made to be the “strong one” in marriage. We are too easily moved. 🙂

I hear women all the time talking about how overwhelmed they are. They are exhausted physically and emotionally. Women if you haven’t already taken off your pants, God is calling you to do so now. Allowing your man to walk in his calling will provide you the time and energy that you need to focus on other things like being the helpmate you were designed to be.

Men need to feel respected more than anything else in the world. They need the opportunity to be your “earthly savior.” They thrive on being able to make things happen for you. If your man is not fitting this description it is because you have been wearing the pants way to long. “So….. Take off your pants!”

For the men who are reading today, if you are not wearing the pants in your marriage it’s time for you to put on one leg at a time. Women feel safe in taking off their pants when they know that the man that they surrender them to will love them as Christ loved the church.

Let everyone take their rightful place…Marriage is so good when you do it God’s way!

Your friend,

Cassandra