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What’s in your Alabaster box?

The covenant between men and women requires that you be willing to break open your Alabaster box. An Alabaster box was used in biblical times to carry something of importance to an individual.  In Matthew 26:7-9, Mary broke open her Alabaster box to get to her most valued and treasured item– her expensive perfume. She took her perfume and poured it over Jesus’ head not at all concerned that there was nothing left for herself. This was a selfless act on her part. She gave her all out of love and respect for her Lord and Savior.

In reading this passage we find out that the others that were present were in disbelief because they  felt it was  a waste and surely imagined that it would be worth more for her to sale her perfume  in hopes to make a profit. This story touches me every time I read it. I realize how much it costs to give unselfishly to someone you love. In marriage everything may not always be the way you want it or the way you imagined it. However, if you break open your Alabaster box and give freely of all your resources, hurts, and ambitions  then and only then can you love your spouse in new ways.

What is in your Alabaster box? Are you carrying pain from the past? Do you keep something on the side just in case your marriage doesn’t work out? Are you depriving your spouse of true intimacy with you because of fear of being hurt?

Whatever it is that you have saved in your Alabaster box break it open today.  The breaking of your box will free you. God works best with broken vessels.   Allow God to renew your marriage by releasing your most precious possessions. You will be glad you did.

Cassandra

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It’s Not About You!

For those of you who didn’t know me as a child let me tell you that I was the brattiest of the brats. I thought that the world revolved around me and only me. Mommy spoiled me rotten….   If I had a desire she filled the need. I truly lived the life of a child that wanted for nothing.

Well that’s all good and dandy, but when you grow up and get married you begin to realize it’s really not about you.  ( At least you should come to this realization! 🙂 )  When you marry you are promising to place that person’s needs above your own and to love, honor, and yes even obey!

When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things. ( 1 Corinthians 13:11 KJV)

There is no room for selfishness in marriage. Marriage requires two mature adults that are both willing to die to their selfish desires in order to please the other. Pleasing the other person involves giving careful consideration to your spouse in everyday situations. Having a selfish attitude is childish and we must work on “putting away childish things!”

Here is a short list of  do’s and don’ts that can help you in your journey to marital bliss:

Don’t

Don’t make life altering decisions without the input of your spouse.

Don’t manipulate  your spouse to have your way.

Don’t make your spouse feel that your needs are greater than their needs.

Do’s

Do consider your spouses needs above your own.

Do consult your spouse on small and big decisions that impact you as a family and  a couple.

Do show that you respect and value your spouses opinion.

Many couples end in divorce due to selfishness and lack of consideration for their partners. Satan thrives on having this type of division in marriage! Do not let him win! Always hold your mate at higher esteem above yourself.

“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.” ( Philippians 2:3-4 NIV)

Jesus was the perfect example of a humble servant that placed the needs of others above his own. Will you die for your spouse today? Those that die to self can truly live a life full of God’s  magnificent blessings!