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God’s Promises (Part 1)

God’s Promises

Do you ever feel that God’s promises don’t apply to you? Sometimes balancing a marriage and a family can be difficult especially when you are trying to do it God’s way.  There are so many promises of God that we can find in the Bible that can help us in building happy marriages and in raising up children that will glorify God.  Let’s take a look at some of God’s promises today.

  • God promises that he will give us a future and a hope. (Jeremiah 29:11)
  • He assures us that if we wait on him that he will restore our strength. (Isaiah 40:31)
  • We know that the same God who takes care of us will supply all our needs. (Philippians 4:19)
  • God promises that if we listen to him that we will live in peace untroubled by fear of harm. (Proverbs 1:33)
  • The testing of our faith develops perseverance, and perseverance leads to maturity and completion. (James 1:3-4)
  • Our children will not depart from what is right if we train them up in the things of God. (Proverbs 22:6)
  • God promises us that if we ask any thing according to his will that he will hear us and we will have it. (1 John 5:14-15)

How do we activate God’s promises in our life?

We can activate God’s promises through prayer! There is so much that God can do for us when we seek him diligently through our prayer life. Have you ever tossed to and fro throughout the night about some unpleasant life experience?  It is during these times that God expects us to activate his promises through communication with him. The Parable of the Persistent Widow shows us that if we persevere in prayer that God will answer our petitions. (Luke 18:1-8) The widow continued to plead her case for the unjust judge to grant her justice against her adversary.  God promises us time and time again in his word that he will bring justice for those that cry out to him.

The Holy Spirit revealed to me on yesterday that much of what we don’t have is because we don’t ask. Yesterday as I struggled to balance my responsibilities as a wife, mother, daughter, sister, and friend I realized one important thing after my husband prayed for me.

PRAYER CHANGES THINGS!

How can I expect to have all of God’s promises if I don’t ask for them?  How can I expect to be an overcomer if I don’t request God’s assistance?

Activate God’s promises today by making time to spend time dialoguing with God.  The prayers of the righteous availeth much. (James 5:16)

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How Do You Teach a Dog New Tricks?

Have you ever heard the proverb, “You can’t teach an old dog new tricks?” This basically leads one to believe that you can’t change who people are.   We know that this is partially true…. You can’t change someone, but with the help of God people can and do change.

It is common for us to develop bad habits in life especially within our marital relationships. Many of us bring baggage from pass relationships with our parents, friends, and even opposite sex relationships. Often times, we are unaware that we have so many hang ups and it takes getting married for everything to start falling out of our “emotional bags.”

When dealing with a spouse that is resistant to change one must first of all stay in prayer. Staying in prayer requires that you must make a commitment to communicate with God on a daily basis. It is nearly impossible to see change if you are not first seeking the kingdom of God. (Matt: 6:33)

When believers begin to seek God about others the Holy Spirit will more than likely direct you back to yourself. We must make sure that we are first and foremost doers of the word. (James 1:22) This means that we must be making every effort to treat our spouses with the love, kindness, and respect that we expect to get in return. If you read, “Help Me…. I’m Living in Hell” then you already know that I was very much resistant to change. I wanted to remain angry because of the people that hurt me in the past. There was no way I was going to allow myself to be hurt again so I did what most people do…. I built a wall around myself to protect myself from being hurt.

While I was building walls one brick at a time, Joseph was being obedient to God and continued to love me as Christ loved the church. I remember waking up to him laying hands on me and praying over me. I remember him praying in the spirit while ironing his clothes for work, and hearing him say, “Lord I love my wife today more than I did the day I married her.” Now that’s love!!!

How do you deal with a spouse that is resistant to change? You pray, and pray and pray some more! Joseph saw me for the beautiful woman I would become once I was healed from past hurts. He led by example. He didn’t wait until I changed to give me his best….  He gave me his best and then I changed!!

If your spouse is resistant to change their ways, or if they are determined to build a wall we urge you to pray for them daily.  We encourage you to see your mate through new eyes and love them today like they are the person you’ve always dreamed of.

People can and do change… You can help facilitate change in your spouse by putting on the love of God and allowing your life to be a reflection of Christ.

Be encouraged,

Cassandra

Back to the Basics: Communication

Communication in marriage is a key factor in your level of satisfaction with your marriage. Most people who are married will admit that if you don’t feel like your spouse understands you then you end up feeling alone, and or isolated. It makes things even worst if you have a spouse that refuses to talk through life’s challenges.  Most of us seem to marry our opposite. This means that one of you loves to talk and the other can probably do without hashing out all the details of every situation.

In a marriage there is absolutely no way around communicating with your spouse. In order to work it out… you have to talk it out.  It is imperative to practice communicating effectively with your spouse if you want your interactions to be positive.  The most important step in communicating effectively with your spouse is knowing the best time to talk about certain subjects. For instance, allow your spouse to cool down from a busy day at work or from time with the kids.  It is also fruitful to discuss matters when you have had time to think about the issues at hand before approaching your spouse. This will help you both in discussing the issues without having to worry about your emotions getting the best of you.

Communication is a two way process. Someone has to talk while the other one listens! It is usually easiest for all us to do the talking. 🙂  Practice listening to your spouse before commenting.  Proverbs 18:2,13 sheds some light on the error of our ways when we are more concerned with being heard then listening.
2  “A fool has no delight in understanding, but in expressing his own heart.”
13  “He who answers a matter before he hears it, it is folly and shame to him.”

Keys to improving communication with your spouse:

  1. Have prayer before discussing difficult matters. Ask God to open your heart and mind.
  2. Allow the person with the issue to speak first.
  3. Practice listening before speaking. Don’t interrupt!
  4. Repeat what you think your spouse is saying and give them a chance to affirm that what you heard was what they were trying to communicate.
  5. Take turns speaking.
  6. Come to an agreement and seal the deal with a kiss!

Love your spouse enough to listen.  Stay tuned for part 2 “What are your actions communicating to your spouse?”

With Love,

Cassandra

A message for my readers

My heart is so happy today. I initially created this new blog because I wanted to have a platform to share my writing, but God always has a greater purpose than what we ever know. God has blessed me with the desire to write in efforts to encourage, to motivate and lift up those who may need encouragement and support in the things of God. It is no surprise that God gave me Marriage is Good because marriage has always been near and dear to my heart since the day I said, “I do.” Joseph and I feel very deeply and closely tied to those that join us in this journey of marriage! Marriage is so so good! Since the start of Marriage is Good two and a half weeks ago, we have been blessed by so many readers that have reached out via the comment section, text message, email, and even phone calls. You have encouraged and supported me with your positive thoughts and suggestions. So today I thank you for reading my thoughts as inspired by God. In just two weeks the website has received over 500 hits! To God be the glory.

Please be sure to visit the website directly at http://marriageisgood.net . You will find that we have updated the site to show valuable marriage resources such as links to various ministries as well as book titles that might be of great help to you in your marriage. We have also added a section to inform you of marriage workshops or seminars that you and your spouse can take part. As you continue to read I pray that your marriage will be blessed a 1000 times over what you can ever imagine! For those marriages that are struggling I pray that healing is in your near future and that God will restore anything and everything your marriage lacks! If you are in need of prayer for your marriage tap into the power of God and allow Marriage is Good followers to join you in prayer. We have included a new menu where you can post any special prayers for all to see. The bible tells us that when two or three gather together that our God will be in the midst! Take advantage of this power!!!!

Today I would like to thank my ever so patient husband for being the editor of my blog and the Godly head of our house. May he always know that he is truly the wind beneath my wings. Most importantly, I thank God for knowing my heart, for loving me, and for giving me an opportunity to share His word and His plan for marriage with all of you. I love you with the love of God! He that does not love does not know God for God is love!( 1 John 4:8)

Forever your friend,

Cassandra