Why does Satan hate marriage so much?
Those that are married were surprised to find out that they had moved up on Satan’s list of people to destroy by any means necessary. Before you were married you were probably further down on the list if you were doing God’s work and trying to live for Christ. However, the day you said “I do” you moved to one of Satan’s Very Important People.
As one of Satan’s Very Important People he studies you daily. He understands you better than anyone else on earth. He knows exactly what it will take to move you off your mark. He has idle time to invent new ways to divide you and your spouse. Together you and your spouse represent God’s love, beauty, and power. No one but God could create such a perfect union that is a constant reminder to His great kingdom.
He created marriage to carry on his legacy through generations of families. Satan’s main desire is to prevent you from achieving oneness in your marriage. What is “Oneness?”
Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. (Gen.2:24)
If you are not cleaving to your spouse for every concern, issue, or circumstance that you encounter than you are not successfully achieving oneness in your marriage. Failure to achieve oneness will constantly keep you in a” roller-coaster state “in your marriage. You will constantly be faced with the same issues time and time again because you have not overcome them as of yet.
God is calling all of us to overcome those issues that prevent us from being one with our spouse. In order to defeat Satan we must plan to defeat him daily by “growing in oneness.” We are more than conquerors through him that loves us. (Romans 8:37) There is no reason why Satan should be able to overtake our marriages with resentment, infidelity, rejection, or any other sinful condition.
Rise up today and decide to keep Satan at a defeated state in your marriage. No weapon formed against you shall prosper! (Isaiah 54:17)
What are you angry about?
Many married couples are holding anger inside that is specifically reserved for their mate. Some are angry because their spouse didn’t make the right business decision way back in 2001. Others are angry because their mate refuses to respect their position. A select few are angry because they don’t feel that their mate puts them first while forsaking all others. Let me first say this… Anger is a sin. It causes a great percentage of the incarcerations among adults and youth today. Anger destroys healthy marriages every year and the result is inevitable.
God desires that we carry ourselves in such a manner that would be pleasing to Him.
“My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires. Therefore, get rid of all moral filth and the evil that is so prevalent and humbly accept the word planted in you, which can save you. Do not merely listen to the word, and so deceive yourselves. Do what it says. Anyone who listens to the word but does not do what it says is like someone who looks at his face in a mirror and, after looking at himself, goes away and immediately forgets what he looks like. But whoever looks intently into the perfect law that gives freedom, and continues in it—not forgetting what they have heard, but doing it—they will be blessed in what they do. Those who consider themselves religious and yet do not keep a tight rein on their tongues deceive themselves, and their religion is worthless.” (James 1:19-26 NIV)
Anger is a dangerous emotion. It causes people to act in ungodly ways. It can cause a division that is hard to repair in marriages and families. God desires that you perfect your walk by being doers of his word. Guard your tongue, body, and thoughts from giving life to tragic circumstances.
It is unlikely that your mate will never again make you angry. However, it is your responsibly to remember God’s word that says, “Be angry but sin not.” (Eph.4:26) When we allow anger to lead us into sin we separate ourselves from God’s protection, thus allowing room for Satan to enter into our presence.
I challenge you to join me in praying for those marriages that you know are drowning in anger. If your marriage is one of them please don’t forget to pray for yourself! Together we can reverse the curse of anger from gaining a foothold in generations to come.
When you first got married someone of the Christian faith probably quoted the following scripture:
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold. (Ephesians 4:26-27 NIV)
This scripture happens to be one of the most famous quotes given to those saved and unsaved during marriage celebrations. For those that are not in the household of faith it probably sounds more like this:
“Never go to bed angry.”
This is no doubt one of the best pieces of advice that anyone seeking to stay married forever can receive. Anger is one of the most deadly emotions that anyone can have. Anger can lead one to make horrible life choices that lead to long-term consequences. The effects of anger have also been known to cause both physical and psychological illnesses in one’s body.
If you allow anger to fester in your marriage it will block your ability to love as God has commanded. It is impossible to love your spouse unconditionally and be angry at them at the same time. Love and anger do not mix!!! Anger seeks revenge and justice, whereas love seeks peace and joy.
Satan would love nothing more than to send you and your spouse to bed angry at one another. When he accomplishes this task he knows that he has gained a place in your marriage that he can use to begin his work.
When anger arises in your marriage make every attempt to make peace before going to bed. Do not allow Satan to begin steps at tearing your marriage apart by pitting you against each other. We have a favorite line that we like to use when we see Satan trying to get a foothold in our marriage. We start by smiling at the other person and we say, “We’re on the same team.”
Do not let the sun go down when you’re angry! Instead take a time out and devise a plan that allows for a win-win situation. Don’t forget in the midst of your anger, “You both are on the same team too!”
Who does the devil attack most in your marriage you or your spouse? It is often rare in marriages that both partners are at the same place at the same time in their spiritual walks. Our experiences in marriage can sometimes determine the quality of our relationship with our Heavenly Father which should not be the case. We are to stand firmly on the word of God despite our worldly struggles.
The weakest link in your marriage is the one that the devil feels he can take down with little to no work on his part. He knows that he can easily sidetrack the weak link by messing with his or her health, finances or even their reputation. It takes very little effort to move the weakest link off their mark!
The strongest link is the person that seeks God readily for help in the time of trouble. This person realizes that they must spend time in prayer and must make a habit of seeking God for answers to life’s challenges. Satan realizes that he must step up his game in efforts to distract or move the strongest link of your union off their mark.
If you know that your mate is weak in certain areas you must stand firm and help them to remain grounded in the things of God. Do not allow Satan to attack your spouse! Together you can defeat the enemy’s attacks.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (KJV)
Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour.  For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up.  Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?  And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken.
Stand by your mate.
- Is Your Spouse a Dog???? (marriagelifeisgood.com)
Often times in our marriages we are so concerned with pleasing our mates that we end up neglecting our prayer life and our relationship with God. We must be careful not to love our spouses more than we love God! Showing more love and respect to our spouses than to God and His word leads God to become jealous.
God has commanded us to have no other god’s before Him. (Exodus 20:3) As Christians we must understand the order set forth by God from the very beginning. He requires that we make Him our first priority in our lives. Putting your spouse before God breaks the first commandment given to us by Christ.
It is essential to understand that in order to love your spouse the right way that you must love God the right way. We must be in true relationship with God in order for us to reap the best rewards in our marriages. Thus, loving God the right way means that we will give Him the honor and praise that is due Him every day. It also means that no one else should be able to replace Him in our hearts or lives. God desires for us to give Him our best. He does not want our leftovers!
Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. (Matt. 6:33 NIV)
When we give God our best he adds to our resources so that we can be abundantly blessed in our marriages, and in our families. I am very thankful that God has given me a godly man on this earth to provide for me and look after my concerns. However, I know and understand that God is truly the supplier of all of my needs and the force behind everything that I am and will ever become.
God alone is our provider and we must recognize that without Him we don’t have a chance at having heaven on earth. Put God first today and every day, and he will supply all of your needs in life and in marriage! (Phil. 4:19) God is so faithful!!!!